Vacation with Your Partner

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Do you remember how it was in the beginning of your relationship? Everything was sizzling, and you hung on every word of your partner; you were in the delight of discovering more about each other. Do you miss those feelings of connection? I have a super simple way to reconnect and rekindle with each other. All you have to do is take a vacation everyday with your partner.  What? Don’t worry, it doesn’t mean you have to live in Tahiti and abandon…

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Sex in the Older Years

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If we take good care of ourselves, our sexual system can outlast just about every organ system we have. People have the opportunity to enjoy sexual pleasure well into their older years. Couples that have attended to their relationship through the years can enjoy lovemaking based on sexual and emotional maturity, life experiences and a deepening of their intimate relationship. This can all help with some of the following challenges of sexuality in the older years: Women can develop some…

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Sexuality at Middle Age

By | Creating More Passion in Marriage, Great Sex, Intimacy, Long Hot Marriage, Love, Love advice, Marital Advice, Marriage, Marriage Advice, Parenting, Relationships, Romance, Sex, Sexy, Successful Marriages, Todd’s Thursday Thought | One Comment

Continuing the July theme of Sexuality Through the Years, this brief blog article discusses sexuality at middle age. Middle age is a pretty loose term. For most of us, it covers the time of having adolescent and young adult children, beginnings of perimenopause and menopause, and being empty nesters. Having adolescents of course is challenging in general but it also challenges our sex life because the bedtimes are later and there are less opportunities to be alone because of that….

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Improving Sex Lives for Parents with Young Children

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As I continue my month-long theme of Sexuality Through the Years, today’s blog is about parents who have young children.  These parents are usually still in their sexual prime but there bodies might not feel like it, especially the mom!  Lack of sleep as well as constantly paying attention for the safety and welfare of babies and young children can take a bite out of the erotic side of a marriage.  Here are 7 tips that I have used with…

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Little Ways to Make a Long-term Relationship Feel Youthful and New

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As the author of my first book, “The Long Hot Marriage,” I was implying that long-term marriages could be passionate and alive.  We all know (and maybe some know all too well), that as a relationship continues, patterns, regularity and consistency set in.  Some of that is good but it could lead to boredom and an “energetic aging” of the relationship. We need to put energy into our relationship to keep it new and fresh and I will say- even…

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Caitlyn Jenner and Gender Transition

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As a professor at the USC School of Social Work and as a marriage and sex therapist, I have been embracing the changes going on regarding sexuality, gender and sexual preference.  Over 30 states have legalized gay marriage. A few sport celebrities are coming out as gay. Most recently we have the case of Caitlyn Jenner, formerly Bruce Jenner, a celebrated Olympic decathlon gold medal athlete, who has opened up to the public about his process of becoming the gender…

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Tips for More Romance

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Romance is key to keeping the embers burning in a long hot marriage. But, what happens if you aren’t the romantic type? (Hint: EVERYONE can be romantic; it’s not really that hard.) With these tips for more romance, you will learn how easy romance can be. Access that part of you, that makes you and your partner feel the magic all over again. Here’s to getting the love you want!

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What Toxic, Stagnant and Good Relationships Have In Common

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I have been writing about toxic relationships. These are relationships where you are negatively affected physically, emotionally and spiritually because of the cruel, self-absorbed, neglectful or dependent behavior of an intimate partner. Stagnant relationships can also affect us in negative ways by leaving us bored, frustrated and less emotionally alive. So what do these 2 kinds of relationships have in common with good relationships? In all three, there is room for improvement. It is easy to see how the first…

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Play a Sexy Game with Your Partner

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This is recycling of a previous Thursday thought. I chose this one because I feel that it is very important to be playful and adventurous with your partner.  This weekend, play a stripping game with your partner. Come up with some trivia questions what you each believe your partner has at least a chance of knowing the answer to. Make sure that you know the answer. If your partner answers the question right, you take off an article of clothing….

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3 Things Every Married Person Needs to Know About Sex

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There are three things that stand out when I think of what married people and those in long term relationships need to know about sex. Don’t wait to be”in the mood.” As a radio host that I heard once said, “If my wife waited to be in the mood to have sex with me, I would have it every February 29th!”  Yes, in the beginning of relationships and even in the middle of relationships there are times when feelings drive…

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