Staying connected to your partner

Relationship Mastery: Staying Connected with Your Partner

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I've recorded a new video for the Relationship Mastery series and it's got great tips on staying connected with your partner. I've been working with couples for 30+ years and I see that they all have one thing in common...An amazing capacity for passionate and nurturing relationships. In this video I discuss the one thing that holds us back from having that relationship with our partner. And I share what successful couples do to have more passion, romance and laughter...

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What it takes to have a thriving healthy relationship with expert Stan Tatkin

By | Healthy Marriage, Marriage Problems, Relationships, Successful Marriages | No Comments

Just what does it take to have a thriving healthy relationship?  I am talking to renowned relationship expert Stan Tatkin about his perspective on this subject. Stan Tatkin is one of those couple therapists that I respect and admire. He is a passionate and effective couples therapist but beyond that he is a great trainer for therapists.  I have personally heard him speak and he brings a lot of knowledge to the table.  He is a coauthor of one of...

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The Courage & Safety of Intimacy

By | Healthy Marriage, Intimacy, Love advice, Marital Advice, Relationships, Romance, Sensuality, Sex, Successful Marriages | No Comments

Are you letting fear ruin the possibility of having intimate love? In this video, marriage and sex therapist Todd Creager discusses the courage and safety of intimacy, and learning to give and receive love. He'll show you the 2 critical steps that you need to take in order to create the right environment in your relationship where you can relax and be truly intimate with your partner. "Intimacy is the practice of courage." -Todd Creager I encourage you to be...

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Why Self Care Is The Number One Thing You Must Do

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If you want to be successful in your life and your relationship(s), then you MUST practice self care. I see a lack of self care as a major factor that is destroying our bodies and our relationships!  Watch this short video where I give my best tips for practicing self care. I want you to pick one thing that I suggest in this video, try it out and let me know how it goes! So tell me what's going to...

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Creating the Long Hot Marriage

Creating the Long Hot Marriage: 10 Tips Your Parents Never Taught You

By | Commitment, Communication, Long Hot Marriage, Love, Marital Advice, Passion, Romance, Successful Marriages | No Comments

1) Your once hot marriage will probably cool off; that is normal and that is not really a problem. 2) Once your marriage cools off, there are most definitely things you can do to fan those embers and get it hot again. 3) Think about what you used to do that created passion in your relationship and do it again whether you feel like it or not. 4) Yes, in order for passion to be recreated, you need to do romantic and sexy gestures…

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Parenting and Romance

Parenting and Romance: Being Lovers When You Have Young Ones Around

By | Commitment, Communication, Love advice, Marital Advice, Relationships, Romance, Successful Marriages | No Comments

Many of my couples in my practice have babies and/or young children.  This is often when their sex life and romantic life wanes.  One or both parents are sleep deprived when the kids are very young.  As the kids get older but are still young, there is homework to help them with, extracurricular activities to get them to as well as all the other aspects of life that we need to take care of.  So when the heck can we…

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The Link Between Emotional Pain and Romance

I’m So Mad! Let’s Kiss!: The Link Between Emotional Pain and Romance

By | Commitment, Communication, Intimacy, Love advice, Marital Advice, Marriage Advice, Passion, Romance, Successful Marriages | No Comments

It is easy to be romantic in the beginning of relationships where our focus is on the pleasure and the positives.  But when the relationship continues, we get annoyed, hurt, frustrated and angry with our partner at times.  And we are supposed to be romantic anyway? Yes – pain is inevitable and pain is not the block to romance.  The block to romance happens when we let the pain disconnect us.  Our role models (mainly parents and grandparents) were not…

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My 3 best tips for Increasing Eroticism in Your Intimate Relationship

My 3 best tips (at least for now) for Increasing Eroticism in Your Intimate Relationship

By | Commitment, Eroticism, Great Sex, Intimacy, Long Hot Marriage, Love, Marital Advice, Passion, Relationships, Romance, Sensuality, Sex, Sexual Desire, Sexy Marriage, Successful Marriages | No Comments

1. Think about sex more even if you usually don’t.  Spend a minute or less every hour of your workday  (or time when you and your partner are apart) thinking of what you can do with him or what he can do for you.   (That’s all it takes). Imagine your sexiest self- what are you wearing, what are you saying, what are you doing?  Remember- your brain is your sex organ- Use it! 2. Take your focus off having an orgasm….

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32 Years and Still Sexy as Ever

By | Intimacy, Long Hot Marriage, Love, Marital Advice, Passion, Romance, Sexy Marriage, Successful Marriages | One Comment

This past August 12th was our 32nd wedding anniversary.  Cherie and I have been playing, loving, parenting, fighting and making up for all these years (Well- parenting together for 23 of those years).  Our relationship has had its challenges as all close relationships do.  We are very different in some significant ways.   Our parenting styles were different; I am a dreamer and have been a risk taker as an entrepreneur while my wife preferred more stability and structure.  And of…

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Communicating Your Kink With Your Partner

Communicating Your Kink With Your Partner

By | Commitment, Communication, Intimacy, Marriage Advice, Passion, Relationships, Romance, Sex, Successful Marriages | No Comments

Intimate partners often have unspoken rules of what can be expressed and what cannot be expressed. As author of the book, The Long Hot Marriage, I am passionate about helping long-term couples have alive and passionate relationships. One way to do that is to use the committed relationship to explore your “less conventional” sides of yourself, particularly your unconventional sexual desires. I am so thankful that this society is showing signs of opening up sexually and not being so quick…

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