The Humorous side of relationships

The Humorous Side of Relationship Problems

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Relationships can be challenging and painful at times and this month I have been writing about the serious topic of infidelity.  So for the 5th Thursday in March, how about a little humor! “Someone told me the delightful story of the crusader who put a chastity belt on his wife and gave the key to his best friend for safekeeping, in case of his death. He had ridden only a few miles away when his friend, riding hard, caught up…

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Why There is So Much Infidelity?

Why There is So Much Infidelity?

By | Committment, Infidelity, Intimacy, Love advice, Marital Advice, Marital Problems, Marriage Advice, Marriage Problems, Relationships, Romance | No Comments

Infidelity is very common and a good portion of my practice consists of people coming to see me after discovering there has been an extramarital relationship.  The question is why?  I am going to give my best partial answer, partial because it is such a big question and I as well as other experts in the field can write volumes on this question.  However, for the purpose of this brief writing, I will list these 5 IMPORTANT reasons: 1)   It…

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How to Be Romantic Even When Your Partner is Driving You Crazy

How to Be Romantic Even When Your Partner is Driving You Crazy

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So I saw a couple today and the husband was complaining about their lack of compatibility and their constant friction.  I pointed out that most healthy relationships are full of friction and many of those relationships are comprised of partners who have very different tastes, preferences, parenting styles, etc.  He complained that she was driving him crazy with all the things that she was doing.  I knew intuitively that if he was able to find a way to like her;…

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The Perfect (Offbeat) Date For Your Mate

The Perfect (Offbeat) Date For Your Mate

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I hope that you find much of my writing thought provoking and profound. This article is not about being profound; it is what I hope it creatively pragmatic and suggestive of a few things you can do this week with your beloved! But hopefully a little different than the typical (which is perfectly ok) dinner with a movie experience. I hope you find one of these ideas perfect for you and your partner. Or maybe with a modification you can…

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Does Your Relationship Need More Romance? You’re Just 30 Seconds Away!

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Nothing is done without thinking about it first.  If you often have the thought/question- “What can I do for my partner that will make him/her smile,” then you might want to skip the rest of this short article.  But for the rest of you, here is my suggestion.  Have your phone notify you that it is time to spend 30 seconds thinking about what you can do for your partner today to uplift his or her energy.  When would that…

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What a 31 Year Marriage has Taught Me About Romance

What a 31 Year Marriage has Taught Me About Romance

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I have been married 31 and a half years to the day. I just calculated that to be 11,504 days, 276,096 hours and 16,565,760 minutes. OMG- I do not know if I should have done that; I feel a little older than before I took out my iPhone calculator. The point of this is that with all that time that has gone by, I have learned a thing or two about romance even though I am sure that there is…

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Evolutionary Psychology and Lust, Romance and Attachment

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The three different brain pathways of intimacy Modern research on couples has shown that there are three types of intimacy in relationships all with different brain pathways, different body chemicals involved and different energies.  Lust happens in the very beginning of most courtships.  This stage lasts roughly about 6 months of a new relationship.  Romantic love may follow if there is good physical or emotional chemistry between two people.  This stage lasts roughly about 4 years, which evolutionary principles state…

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Todd’s Secrets for A Sexy Relationship

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We’ve all been there. After the HOT beginnings of a relationship, things tend to simmer down, and eventually cool off. It’s totally natural but not unpreventable. If you want a little more sizzle, and less fizzle, watch these 5 easy ways to spark up your love life with your beloved. You can start making your relationship better, tonight!

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How To Recognize Intimacy Issues in Marriage

How To Recognize Intimacy Issues in Marriage

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Intimacy is about feeling close to your partner, especially after the courting period.  The courting period is a time when you feel close but you actually merge with your partner and forgot your individuality for a while.  As you rediscover your individuality, you tend to fall out of love (temporarily hopefully) and now have an opportunity to get to know yourself as an individual in a committed relationship and to get to know your partner as an individual in a…

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Utilizing Your Imagination for Dramatic Relationship Results in 2016

Shift Happens – Utilizing Your Imagination for Dramatic Relationship Results in 2016

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Here are 5 powerful steps to take to dramatically improve your relationship in 2016: 1)  Forget history; ok maybe you cannot forget, but do not define your partner by his or her past behavior.  That could be very limiting and keeps a couple stuck in old negative patterns. 2)  Focus on what you want from your partner, even if you never or seldom have received it.  Imagine your partner giving you what you want. 3)  Thank your partner in advance…

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