Have you ever wondered why the playfulness in your relationship seems to fade after the honeymoon phase?
As a marriage therapist, I want to talk about how to stay playful in your relationship, even long after those initial butterflies have settled.
When we first start dating, playfulness comes naturally.
There’s actually some interesting chemistry at work here – high levels of dopamine and cortisol create that exciting, giddy feeling that makes being silly and romantic feel effortless.
But as relationships mature and we settle into routines with houses, kids, and daily responsibilities, we often lose that magical spark of spontaneity.
Here’s why staying playful is the key to lasting love and how to make it happen:
The Power of Everyday Playfulness
Playfulness isn’t about planning elaborate vacations to Maui.
It’s about finding joy in ordinary moments, like a random Tuesday at 6 PM.
Whether it’s spontaneously dancing in your kitchen, singing a silly song, or skipping down the street together, these small acts of play can instantly shift the energy between you and your partner.
Breaking Out of the Functional Rut
While being functional in a relationship is important, operating only in “functional mode” can drain the life from your connection.
To stay playful in your relationship, you need to consciously step outside your comfort zone.
This might feel awkward at first, especially if you grew up in a more reserved household, but that’s exactly why it’s so important to try.
Making Playfulness a Priority
Don’t wait to “feel” playful – schedule it! Put a reminder in your phone to “surprise and delight” your partner.
Leave unexpected love notes on their car windshield.
Tell a joke (even if you have to Google one first). The key is making playfulness a regular part of your relationship routine.
Creating Safe Spaces for Exploration
Committed relationships aren’t prisons – they’re actually perfect environments for exploring new sides of ourselves.
When you stay playful in your relationship, you create opportunities for both partners to grow and express themselves freely.
This safety allows you to take chances and be vulnerable in ways that actually strengthen your bond.
Practical Tips for Increasing Playfulness:
– Set daily reminders to do something unexpected and fun
– Break routine by suggesting spontaneous activities
– Use technology to send playful messages throughout the day
– Create silly traditions that are unique to your relationship
– Don’t overthink it – sometimes the simplest gestures have the biggest impact
I’ve never seen a couple regret adding more playfulness to their relationship. In fact, it consistently improves the quality of connection between partners. Remember, staying playful in your relationship isn’t about being perfect – it’s about being present and willing to step outside your comfort zone for the sake of joy and connection.
Ready to bring more play into your relationship? Watch the video below for more detailed examples and practical strategies to keep the spark alive in your relationship.
Together, we can make the world safer for love, one playful moment at a time.
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