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[VIDEO] When is it okay to stay after infidelity

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So...your partner cheated and you're upset, humiliated, sad and experiencing a lot mixed feelings. Part of you might want to stay and part of you might want to just walk away from this horrible mess. That's totally understandable... In this video I've created for you below, I address the question of when it's OK to stay and work things out. Grab your FREE copy of the 10 Steps to Healing from Infidelity here:  http://toddcreager.com/infidelity-freebie/ And know I'm here to help if you or...

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How to recover from infidelity

How to recover from infidelity

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When I meet with couples (or individuals) who are needing help to recover from infidelity there are 2 questions I get asked all the time… How will I ever get over infidelity? And how long will it take me recover? Watch this video I created for you about how to recover from infidelity and thrive again as a couple. What does thriving after infidelity look like?  I cover this in-depth in the video. The number one piece of advice I…

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Infidelity- When Is It Time To Move On?

Infidelity- When Is It Time To Move On?

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5 Scenarios that May Tip the Scale Towards Saying Goodbye Last week, I wrote an article about when it makes sense for the betrayed partner to stay engaged in the relationship after infidelity.   Most of the couples that see me end up not only together but having a deeper and more connected relationship than before the affair. As I have said many times, this is not to say that cheating is a good thing; it is not.  However, with…

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Infidelity- When Does It Make Sense to Stay

Infidelity- When Does It Make Sense to Stay? The Necessary Seven Conditions

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We are hearing about it all the time in the media- politicians, celebrities- infidelity is rampant and is as painful as it is rampant.   Maybe you have experienced it either as one who was betrayed or the one who betrayed. I have many couples each week that I work with on this painful problem and most of the time there is ambivalence on the part of the betrayed partner.  Should I stay or should I go?  This article is discussing…

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The bottom line on healing from infidelity

The Bottom Line when it Comes to Healing From Infidelity

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Infidelity It can tear at the very fabric of a relationship. I see couples devastated by this every day I am at my office.  And yet, I find that many of these couples find away to heal from the crisis and develop more evolved, more connected and more loving relationships than they had ever had before. I work with some of these couples on a weekly basis; others come for a weekend intensive.   However the couple decides to proceed with…

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Opening Your Heart After Infidelity

Opening Your Heart After Infidelity

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How To Trust Again When You’ve Been Betrayed When I write these articles, I know that every couple is unique.  There is not just one blueprint for healing, yet I know it is possible to begin opening your heart after infidelity has happened.  I do not work with couples in the exact same way, because partners have different childhoods, different wounding, different capacities to be resilient and different needs.  However here are some truths that I have found to be…

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A Successful Couple Who Healed from Sex Addiction

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Tom and Mary (not their real names) came to me because Mary found Tom’s sent emails to several online “solicitors.” He had not acted on them but he had admitted to checking out Internet prostitution sites over the last three years.  Mary caught him doing porn many times and was angry about how often he seemed to do it and the lack of initiating sex with her.  In our first session, he embarrassingly said that he probably looked at porn…

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Treatment of Sexual Addiction

Treatment of Sexual Addiction

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I am going to be using the blog from 2 weeks ago- 5 Possible Causes of Sex Addiction to briefly discuss treatment approaches for this problem depending on the corresponding possible cause. As with many other “diagnoses,” there can be multiple factors that could lead to someone being sexually addicted. Here are five possible causes that I have observed in my clinical work: 1)   There was early sexual, emotional or physical trauma in the addicted person’s early life. Victims of…

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Sex Addiction or High Libido_What is the Difference

Sex Addiction or High Libido: What is the Difference?

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I am going to get a little personal here. I like sex; I may be under some illusion but after being married for almost 33 years, my sexual response is about the same as when I was far younger. I like that I like sex and I could say that my wife likes that I like sex as well. One of my main areas of clinical expertise is helping people with low sexual desire, and I have had both men…

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5 Signs that a Betrayed Person can Trust the Partner Again

5 Signs that a Betrayed Person can Trust the Partner Again

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Your partner cheated on you.  You discovered the affair.  You both have been working on the relationship and trying to heal.  However, you have been hurt in one of the most painful ways possible and it is difficult to let your guard down.  “What if he or she does it again?  Then I will REALLY feel like a fool!”   It makes sense to hold back trust.  It makes sense to be protective.  However, if that continues for a long time,…

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