A Letter to My Daughters about Sexual Harassment

A Letter to My Daughters about Sexual Harassment

By | Family Relationships, family Roles, Sexual Harassment | 2 Comments

My daughters are 25 and 22 and by now both my wife and I have had numerous talks with them about sexual harassment and how to deal with it, stop it in its tracks, etc.   With all the media coverage and seeing how pervasive this problem of sexual harassment is, both in the workplace and in universities, we need to have these talks early with our daughters and sons.  If I were to write a letter to them now…

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How to handle stress and be resilient

How to handle stress and be resilient

By | Family Relationships, Mind/Body Health, Relationships, Stress | No Comments

Do You Know How to Handle Stress and Be Resilient? Stress is an inevitable part of all of our lives...and what we do with it is what matters. I'm back with part 3 on my series on stress and resilience.  In the first post on this series I covered  I gave you 7 tips to work with your body  and in part 2 I  shared 7 tips to work with your mind to be resilient.  In this post I'm concluding...

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Using the brain to be resilient

How to Reduce Stress and Be Resilient: Part 2

By | Gratitude, Healing, Meditation, Mind/Body Health, Mindfulness, Peace | No Comments

In last week's article I shared these 7 tips to recover quickly from stress and become more resilient. In this post I'll be sharing 7 tips to work with your mind to be resilient.  It is also just as possible and important to use your mind to release stress and be resilient.   Here are 7 ways you can use your mind to maintain a state of wellbeing whether you are going through challenging circumstances or not: #1:  Imagine things working out just the...

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Couple showing how to eliminate stress with relaxation

How to eliminate stress and become more resilient: Part 1

By | Coping, Stress, Todd’s Thursday Thought | No Comments

7 Tips to Work with Your Body to Eliminate Stress and Become More Resilient I thought a great way to end 2017 is with a 2-part article on stress and resilience.  Whether or not you are reading this at the end of 2017 or at any time of the year these tips where I show you how to eliminate stress and become more resilient are timeless. According to an Internet definition, resilience is the capacity to recover quickly from difficulties....

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Woman practising gratefulness

How practising gratefulness can make you feel better

By | Gratitude, Holidays, Mind/Body Health, Success Advice | No Comments

Why practising gratefulness will make you feel wonderful. I made this short video on gratefulness because it's one of my favorite things to talk about and it's also something I practice everyday in my personal life. I've personally experienced how powerful practising gratefulness can be. And I want to share that with you. Studies (and my personal experience) show that when you incorporate practising gratefulness into your daily life... you end up feeling more balanced, centered and even healthier!  Gratefulness can...

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couple in a happy healthy relationship

What it takes to have a thriving healthy relationship with expert Stan Tatkin

By | Healthy Marriage, Marriage Problems, Relationships, Successful Marriages | No Comments

Just what does it take to have a thriving healthy relationship?  I am talking to renowned relationship expert Stan Tatkin about his perspective on this subject. Stan Tatkin is one of those couple therapists that I respect and admire. He is a passionate and effective couples therapist but beyond that he is a great trainer for therapists.  I have personally heard him speak and he brings a lot of knowledge to the table.  He is a coauthor of one of...

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My Personal Family Story

My Personal Family Story

By | Family Problems, Family Relationships, family Roles, Family Therapy, Holidays | No Comments

My Personal Family Story Transforming Myself, Transforming My Family I was the people pleaser; the one who always tried to be nice.   My family was close.  I have an older brother, 14 years older and a younger sister 3 and a half years younger; all of the same biological parents.   I grew up and eventually got married in my mid 20’s.   Over the course of our marriage, my wife and I spend a lot of time with my...

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happy couple free from dysfunctional family

Breaking the Shackles of a Dysfunctional Family

By | Dysfunctional Family, Family Problems, Family Relationships, family Roles, Love advice, Marital Advice | No Comments

How a Couple Rewrote their Stories to have a Thriving Relationship She came from a family where her father left when she was 5.   She was the oldest of three siblings.  Her mother was mostly in a state of overwhelm and she became the “responsible” child.  Her mother remarried and she grew close to him.  However, he passed away when she was 14 and it was devastating to her. She continued being in the role of the responsible child....

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Gratefulness Can Make you Healthy, Wealthy and Sexy

Gratefulness Can Make you Healthy, Wealthy and Sexy

By | Commitment, Gratitude, Healing, Intimacy, Long Hot Marriage, Marital Advice | No Comments

So, the number one self-healing thing I do is not healthy eating and not exercise.  It is practicing being grateful.  I even am practicing gratefulness right now as I sit having just watched my team; the LA Dodgers lose in the 7th game of a World Series.  Now that takes some doing!  Why is being grateful so important? Feeling grateful leads to your blood vessels dilating, your cortisol lowering, and your muscles relaxing.  A grateful person feels safe and a…

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The bottom line on healing from infidelity

The Bottom Line when it Comes to Healing From Infidelity

By | Cheating, Commitment, Communication, Infidelity, Intimacy, Marital Problems, Marriage Advice, Relationships | No Comments

Infidelity It can tear at the very fabric of a relationship. I see couples devastated by this every day I am at my office.  And yet, I find that many of these couples find away to heal from the crisis and develop more evolved, more connected and more loving relationships than they had ever had before. I work with some of these couples on a weekly basis; others come for a weekend intensive.   However the couple decides to proceed with…

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