In this video, therapist Todd Creager discusses the often overlooked negatives of asking someone to forgive when it is not in their best interest.

As a matter of fact, it could be another form of gaslighting leading to continue the pattern of a lack of validation for an interpersonal victim.

We tend to think of forgiveness as such a good thing, and when we forgive it frees up a person who is the victim and also frees up the person who hurt the victim in some way.

However, we need to pay more close attention to when we’re asking people to forgive and why we’re asking people to forgive,  because sometimes asking for people to forgive is hurtful to that person, and sometimes we ask people to forgive prematurely.

Watch the video and find out what Todd has to say about forgiveness, when it is healthy and when it is not healthy to forgive.