Here is another question in the series of most asked questions also with an answer (of course).
Q: I feel like no matter what I do for my spouse, it is not enough. Is there any way to please my partner?
A: Almost always, yes. You may be doing a lot for your partner, but it is not the one or two things you need to do that will highly impact your partner. Typically, people give in the areas that they are strong. The key is to discover what it is that will truly raise the emotional energy of your partner. The catch is that it often takes what I call, “Giving from your weakest link’” that gets the job done. In other words, in order to be what I call a high impact partner, you need to give in areas that are less developed in yourself. For example, if you are great at providing, fixing, giving advice and even cooking and washing the dishes, but what your partner really needs is for you to be interested in what she is feeling, you may be relatively inept in the world of feelings. The good news is that you never have to become an expert in your weak areas. Getting a little better can go along way in having a huge positive effect on your partner .
I expand in this concept as well as others in my book. “The Long, Hot Marriage,” a book highly praised by some of the most well known relationship and sex therapy experts. Check it out at www.thelonghotmarriage.com.
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