Over the course of the next 2 weeks, I will write down some of the more common questions I have been asked and give you my answers. If you want to learn more about how to have a passionate marriage, check out my book, “The Long, Hot Marriage” on my website-www.toddcreager.com. Also, feel free to make comments on this blog.
Q: If I am not in love with my partner, is it possible to ever get those feelings back?
A: If you have ever been in love with your partner, you can be in love again. The problem is that as relationships continue, pain emerges such as hurt, disappointment, fear and anger. Often the couple starts to emotionally disconnect at this point because we have few if any good role models in how to stay connected even when feeling these unpleasant feelings towards our partner. As you learn how to develop the “emotional muscle to reconnect with your partner, even through pain, your “in love” feelings may reemerge just as spontaneously as they left. It is difficult to imagine this when you are basing your future on your history. With new patterns of connecting, it is possible to fall back in love.
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