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Q: My partner is addicted to internet porn. How should I deal with this?
A: There are many resources for dealing with this common problem. There are specialists in this area and the understanding of this problem continues to increase as well as improved treatment. Firstly, as difficult as it may be to do, do not take it personally. Your partner’s behavior is not a reflection on you or how attractive you are. If he is doing internet porn instead of spending time with you sexually, he is not doing the adult kinds of risking vulnerability and connecting with you emotionally. People that do internet porn enter a trancelike state that takes them away from everyday challenges and gives them a chance to experience their sexuality in a regressed, childlike way. It often is used for stress relief as well. Do your best to not be judgmental, but at the same time tell him that he needs help with this problem because you want to be with a partner who deals with feelings and problems in healthier ways.
I have helped many individuals and couples who are epxeriencing challenges with internet porn. There are also other therapists who specialize in sex addiction. Feel free to call me if you or someone you know is experiencing this in their relationship and would like some help.
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