Another Channel to Increase Eroticism with Your Partner
“Talking dirty” is a kind of sex play involving sensual or sexual statements or questions in order to arouse your partner or yourself through words and imagination, and heighten sexual pleasure before and during sex. Using dirty talk can stimulate your partner’s major senses: sound, sight and touch. Lovers use dirty talk as a way of expressing their wants and needs in the heat of the moment.
Talking dirty to your partner does not mean that you need to be vulgar or to go so outside your comfort zone that you can’t take yourself seriously. However, talking dirty can be a way to stretch your limits somewhat and bring the relationship to an edgier edge. If you have not talked dirty to your partner and have been very nice and polite, you both can talk about what you would like to hear and say that is outside the norm. Mild dirty talk can be very titillating and exciting. Here is an example of mild dirty talk:
You are so hot that I get erect just looking at you.
Or you can talk in the heat of the moment:
I am going to touch you over here right now and you won’t be able to control yourself.
Each couple could decide for themselves how racy and raunchy they want to get. Using racy or even vulgar words can be very exciting for some couples and they make up the rules. Using words like fuck, dick and cum may be exciting for some people and turn offs for others. Talk about it, set boundaries and enjoy yourselves.
Some couples can decide to play with power games; one being dominant and the other submissive. Words can be used to tease and can accentuate the temporary power differential between the partners. Of course this is play and should be contained within the sexual arena. Likewise, the whole theme of dirty talk is play and not meant to be disrespectful in any way. Dirty play done right can be a loving, playful way to bring out some of the latent parts of ourselves and could be done within the safe confines of an intimate relationship.
People that know me have heard me say that one of my favorite words is ‘experiment.” My suggestion is to experiment with talking dirty with your partner. Do some Internet research if you need to come up with some lines that resonate with you or better yet that would arouse you or your partner. Feel free to give me your reactions, questions and comments regarding this blog. Take care and have some fun with your partner!