It is important to become aware of your own internal critic.
If your partner is being critical of you it does not necessarily mean that you also need to be critical of you. You need to be more aware of, and have more confidence in yourself and your abilities.
And to be ok with you, even when others are not.
That does not mean that you do not learn from what others say or that you do not make changes. It does not mean that if your partner asks you to stop doing something that does not make her feel good that you keep doing it.
You want to be sensitive to your partner and receptive to the feedback she is giving you.
There is a difference between being receptive to feedback and psychologically beating yourself up by telling yourself you are bad or not good enough. If you expect to always please your partner, you are setting yourself up for disappointment.
Pilots spend much if not all of their airplane trip getting back on course. They are rarely on course for long. It requires constant adjusting and correcting.
Think of your sexual relationship in the same way.
If your partner is expressing some displeasure, it only means some adjustments need to be made. Don’t waste a lot of time trying to be good enough in the bedroom.
Instead, enjoy learning to dance sexually with each other.
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