Who says February is Love Month?
People like to say February is love month and I’m okay with that as long as you use this month and then use Valentine’s Day as a springboard to launch you into new habits to increase a sense of love, openness and passion.
If you don’t use this month or Valentine’s Day in this regard, then it really doesn’t mean a whole lot. But if it serves as a reminder to begin and shift to more intimacy and more passion, then I’m all for it.
I don’t want the main benefactors of “Love Month” to be Hallmark, Proflowers.com and See’s Chocolate. The only way I endorse “Love Month” is if the main benefactor is YOU! If you begin a new habit of:
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Paying positive attention to your partner
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Discovering what makes him or her feel loved by you
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Allowing yourself to feel loved by him (or her)
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Being consistently romantic
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Enjoying the erotic elements of your relationship
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Being kind to your partner
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Going out of your way for him or her
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Becoming more emotionally connected
THEN I LOVE “LOVE MONTH!
However, if on February 13th or 14th, you run into a Hallmark Store and buy a card and stick an iTunes card inside and then slip back into what could be seen as a romantic coma for the rest of the year- then I am not so crazy about this Love Month concept.
Of course, that is up to you…
So, do me a favor- help me love “Love Month.”
1. Write to me about your intention to create some or all of the habits I mentioned above. (todd@toddcreager.com).
2. Then write me again in mid-March and let me know about your wonderful follow through and how much better life is for you.
3. And if you find yourself or your relationship challenged or blocked- contact me and I will help you get from Point A (stagnancy, hurt, anger, frustration, emptiness and boredom) to Point B (movement, getting unstuck, healing, joy, peace, passion and fulfillment).
The truth is that it is easy to have internal blocks to relationship fulfillment.
I will have a lot more to say about this in the coming weeks and months. The simplest way of explaining our blocks are:
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We have blind spots.
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We have fear and unconsciously protect ourselves.
If you truly want to shift your relationship, you need to overcome some of your blind spots as well as learn to be open when you want to close.
If you are open to learning about your blind spots from others especially your significant others, then you will be in a far better position to be the lover all year long that February promises consumers. And learning how to stay open rather than close through fight or flight maneuvers will “seal the deal.”
In future articles, I will share some tools and techniques you can develop to “seal the deal” and create Valentine’s Day all year long.
It is possible.
Stay open to learning about your blind spots and be willing to overcome your self-protective mechanisms. Keep reading my material because in 2014 I am determined to help you break through in as many ways as possible so that you may have the life and relationship you crave.
Here’s to getting the love you want!
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