When partners communicate, it is not all done calmly in “inside voices.” Discussions may get hot and heavy, with the aftermath being steamy makeup sex or hard-to-mend damage. When an argument about what’s happening today veers back into the past, drudging up old resentments, the “openness” can drive a wedge between partners, not bring them closer.My audio download Healthy Communication With Your Partner dissects the concept of “fighting fair” and offers examples of how to be healthy and constructive while clearing the air.