Here are 5 powerful steps to take to dramatically improve your relationship in 2016:
1) Forget history; ok maybe you cannot forget, but do not define your partner by his or her past behavior. That could be very limiting and keeps a couple stuck in old negative patterns.
2) Focus on what you want from your partner, even if you never or seldom have received it. Imagine your partner giving you what you want.
3) Thank your partner in advance for the positive shift that is starting to happen (this is before it even starts to happen). Bring out a feeling of gratefulness in you from within as if you are certain of this new positive behavior from your partner.
4) Talk to your partner from that place of gratitude. I can assure you that you speak differently when you expect to get what you want. As your partner hears you from that different place of positive expectation, your partner CAN’T ACT IN THE SAME WAY as before. You have just opened the door for your partner to shift behaviors.
5) Create a consistent pattern of utilizing your imagination to act opposite of your negative expectations. Think of this as a wonderful life-long experiment; treating your partner as if he or she is capable. If it feels a little strange at first, it means you are on the right track. Being unreasonable is the first step towards creating something new and beautifully different.
Relationships don’t just happen; they are created. They are created anew as you use your imagination to bring out the best in your partner. Of course, at the same time it is bringing out something wonderful and different in you, as well. I love helping couples become surprisingly delighted as they discover their relationship potential. If you want someone to help you accelerate the process in 2016, please contact me. HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!
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