Not all families are a pleasure to be around in the holidays.
Here are 3 pointers to help you survive and maybe even thrive around a dysfunctional family during the holidays.
- Have other people there at the event that nourishes you.
Have someone there you can turn to for support. If there are in-laws, you need a promise from your partner that he or she will be supportive of you. Strategize before you go so that your partner knows what to do to protect and support you if certain problems arise.
- Look at the experience as an opportunity for you to grow.
For example, it could be an opportunity for you to be assertive if you tend to allow yourself to be dominated by an insensitive family member. You should have a “co-conspirator of health and growth” there to root you on.
- Have an exit plan.
If things get too toxic and there is no way to stay and maintain your integrity, be willing to leave. Discuss with your partner or friends the best way to do this in case the exit becomes necessary.
Enjoy the holidays and take care of yourself!
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