Todd Creager

Here are some statistics on infidelity according to the Associated Press and the Journal of Marriage and Family Therapy:

  • Over 50% of Men and Women have admitted to comitting infidelity in a relationship

  • 74% of men and 68% of women say they would have an affair if they knew they wouldn’t get caught.

  • 22% of  Men and 14% of Women have strayed at least once during their married lives.

While these figures may sound alarming,  I am here to say that there are several things you can do  to prevent infidelity and help to heal from infidelity.

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When Partners Cheat – what is really going on?

Partners cheat for a variety of reasons in a relationship.  An important thing I do is to help people do is decipher the message of the affair.  Once we understand the message, we can look at possible solutions that make sense to help the couple heal and rebuild their relationship.

I find that it is important understand that infidelity is most often a symptom of other problems in a relationship   When you are distraught it is easy to confuse the symptom with the core problem. Read more about this here.

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How to Prevent Infidelity

While there is no sure fire way to prevent infidelity happening in your relationship, there are things that you can do to minimize the chances of it happening to you.  Here is the number one way you can prevent infidelity and here are 3 more ways you can lower the chances of infidelity happening in your relationship.  If you are beginning a new relationship I suggest paying close attention to his past and don’t just listen to his words, listen to his actions.

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How to Heal from Infidelity

In my practice I have seen couples heal successfully from infidelity and go on to have a better relationship.  The most important place to begin healing is to understand the meaning of the affair, then you can begin to heal from it.

Watch an interview with Julie Orlov on her show “Pathways to Love ” where talked about “The Aftermath of Affairs: How to Heal as a Couple”.  This is an informative talk on healing from an affair and has also a wealth of information on how to have a healthy intimate relationship. It is worth your time to watch and listen. Here is the link:  http://www.ustream.tv/recorded/40252388

 There is Hope & There is Help

People are surprised when they hear that I have an 90% success rate in helping couples survive and thrive after infidelity.  I’m here to help, you can contact me directly at

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