Intimacy is about feeling close to your partner, especially after the courting period. The courting period is a time when you feel close but you actually merge with your partner and forgot your individuality for a while. As you rediscover your individuality, you tend to fall out of love (temporarily hopefully) and now have an opportunity to get to know yourself as an individual in a committed relationship and to get to know your partner as an individual in a committed relationship. Now true closeness can be attained. I will be discussing intimacy all month including of course how to have joyful, loving intimacy. This brief article alerts you to signs and symptoms of intimacy problems. Here are my top 5 signs of intimacy issues in a marriage:
1) You feel negative feelings increasingly more about your partner and keep it to yourself.
2) Bickering increases but neither partner feels heard.
3) Sex decreases in frequency and /or intensity.
4) Your relationship begins to settle into a functional relationship without playfulness and humor.
5) You feel increasingly misunderstood by your partner.
If your relationship has one or more of these symptoms, that IS NOT A BAD SIGN!!! Creating an intimate relationship takes increasing your self awareness, opening up to more points of view and developing the emotional muscle to stay connected when in the past you did some fight or flight maneuver with your partner. It is very likely that your relationship has tremendous “intimacy potential,” and I will be discussing on how to reach that potential in upcoming weeks.
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