5 Signs that a Betrayed Person can Trust the Partner Again

5 Signs that a Betrayed Person can Trust the Partner Again

By | Cheating, Commitment, Communication, Infidelity, Intimacy, Marital Problems, Marriage, Toxic Relationships | No Comments

Your partner cheated on you.  You discovered the affair.  You both have been working on the relationship and trying to heal.  However, you have been hurt in one of the most painful ways possible and it is difficult to let your guard down.  “What if he or she does it again?  Then I will REALLY feel like a fool!”   It makes sense to hold back trust.  It makes sense to be protective.  However, if that continues for a long time,…

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My Siblings and I Never Talk_7 Tips to Heal and Deal

My Siblings and I Never Talk: 7 Tips to Heal and Deal

By | Communication, Dysfunctional Family, Family Problems, Family Relationships, Toxic Relationships | No Comments

Is your family close? Do you have at least one sibling that you communicate with on a regular basis? If you do, that is wonderful because having good relations with your family can cushion you against the stresses of life as well as help you rejoice in the good times. Being with family members who celebrate holidays together, get together consistently and are there for emotional support has been shown to increase emotional and physical wellbeing. However, what if that…

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3 More Signs You Came from a Dysfunctional Family

By | Dysfunctional Family, Marriage, Marriage Advice, Sexual Dysfunction, Toxic Relationships, Trauma | No Comments

Two years ago, I came out with a video blog- Seven Signs You Came From a Dysfunctional Family. Apparently, it has resonated with many people as indicated by the high number of views. Feel free to watch it here.  I want to add three more “signs” to the list because we tend to blame ourselves or our partner for things that may have been patterns we learned in our family of origin. This month I will be writing and talking…

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Infidelity is an Interpersonal Crime!

Infidelity is an Interpersonal Crime!

By | Commitment, Communication, Infidelity, Intimacy, Love, Marital Advice, Marital Problems, Marriage Advice, Marriage Problems, Relationships, Sex, Toxic Relationships | 3 Comments

One of the more common things I do is help couples who have experienced infidelity survive and even thrive.  As I have said before, the great majority of these couples are successful in treatment.  However, I am clear on one thing- cheating and all the secrecy and deception that goes with it steals from the betrayed partner.  It steals a very important right- the right to have information in order to make a good decision.  You cannot make a good…

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EMDR- A trauma approach that can help couple

EMDR- A trauma approach that can help couple

By | Counseling, EMDR, Relationships, Toxic Relationships | No Comments

I have discussed about EMDR in a few past blogs. As I have said EMDR is a well researched and very effective approach to help people move through past pain so they can live more in the present. In this article I want to briefly talk about how I use it with couples that come to see me. Sometimes one or both partners are blocked emotionally or sexually because of some earlier past trauma or multiple traumas. Often past events…

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When the Toxic Person in Your Life is That Negative Voice Inside Your Head

When the Toxic Person in Your Life is That Negative Voice Inside Your Head

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I have been writing about toxic relationships and this article is about another type of toxicity, the toxicity you give to yourself. We all have different voices going on inside of our heads and I am not talking about auditory hallucinations. It has to do with the self-talk we engage in throughout the days of our life. Most if not all of us have a critical voice inside of us that is measuring and comparing us with others and judging…

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He Overcame a Toxic Relationship at Work

He Overcame a Toxic Relationship at Work

By | Relationships, Toxic Relationships, Toxic Relationships at Work | No Comments

What We All Can Learn from John In my Todd’s Thursday Thought last week, I wrote about toxic relationships at work.  I discussed 3 tips to help you deal with toxic relationships in your work life including going opposite your reflex.  When we go with our reflex, it is usually going to bring us the same bad results we have already had.  It also does not do anything for our wellbeing or growth.   Toxic relationships are unpleasant but they can…

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Toxic Relationships at Work

Toxic Relationships at Work

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In addition to my focus on couples, I have done some business consulting and have helped business be more profitable by developing healthier relationships at work.  Researchers have consistently shown that there is a connection between good morale, healthy work relationships and productivity.  However, sometimes, just as in personal relationships, you have to deal with a toxic relationship at work.  I have helped many clients in my private practice deal with people at work who are draining their energy, creating…

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Create a New Positive Family Legacy

By | Communication, Counseling, Dysfunctional Family, Family Relationships, Holidays, Marital Advice, Marital Problems, Marriage, Marriage Advice, Marriage Problems, Mind/Body Health, Parenting, Relationships, Toxic Relationships, Videos | No Comments

Family! Ever find your parents’ voice coming out of your mouth? Do you find yourself recreating the same patterns with your partner or children? Are you longing to have a different relationship with your family?  Sometimes, it seems that nothing will ever change. But, you have the ability to change EVERYTHING. By making a few adjustments in how YOU deal with your past, you will liberate your family to a new way of being! Watch this video for a quick, powerful list of 5…

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Healing from a Broken Heart

By | Coping, Counseling, Toxic Relationships | No Comments

Just about all of us have experienced heartbreak.  We can literally feel the pain in our heart when someone breaks up with us.  How can we get over this pain and move on?  Here are 5 steps towards healing from a broken heart. Feel your feelings; don’t avoid them by going quickly into another relationship or drugs or alcohol.  Avoidance will only belabor your anguish.  Slow down and spend time feeling what you are experiencing.  Cry if you need to;…

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