3 Things Every Married Person Needs to Know About Sex

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There are three things that stand out when I think of what married people and those in long term relationships need to know about sex. Don’t wait to be”in the mood.” As a radio host that I heard once said, “If my wife waited to be in the mood to have sex with me, I would have it every February 29th!”  Yes, in the beginning of relationships and even in the middle of relationships there are times when feelings drive…

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5 Things People Don’t Do in a Healthy Relationship (# 4 is crucial!)

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As much as I like to talk about what you can do to have a phenomenal intimate relationship, it is also helpful to look at what you don’t want to do if you want that rewarding intimate experience in a long term relationship. Here are my top 5: Don’t go with your first reaction when your partner has a complaint about you.  It will probably be defensive and unhelpful.  It is better to take a few breaths and look for…

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Happy New Year

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  Today is the first day of 2015.  What relationship strengths were revealed to you in 2014?  And what weaknesses showed up? We all have both.  What can you do to continue to utilize your strengths and work on your weaknesses? Do you need to become a better listener, more patient, more assertive, more of a leader or a follower?  Make this the year to focus on your relationship goals as well as your other goals.  Happy New Year and…

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Three Warning Signs of Infidelity

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Over the years I have been able to help many couples work through the issue of infidelity successfully. But how do you know if your partner is cheating? In this video, I cover three warning signs that your partner may be cheating on you. To get all five of the warning signs and more content to help you survive and even thrive after infidelity go to: http://toddcreager.com/survive-infidelity/ Here’s to getting the love you want!

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Ending a Toxic Relationship: Saying No More!

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We have all grown up inheriting some family role.  One such role is the “giver” or the “caretaker.”  This is the role where you manage other people’s emotions.   Yes, if you are in this role, you have unconsciously inherited the job of putting everyone’s needs ahead of your own.  If you are one of those people, there is a good chance you are the one who ends up with the lazy, insensitive work partner or the friend who is always…

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Not feeling the passion in your relationship?

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Not interested in sex? You’re probably not alone… Married couples say they have sex an average of 68.5 times a year. That’s slightly more than once a week. — Newsweek Married people have 6.9 more sexual encounters per year than people who have never been married. — Newsweek 15 to 20 percent of couples have sex no more than 10 times a year, which experts define as a sexless marriage. — Newsweek 20 to 30 percent of men and 30…

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The Biggest Sexual Myth of All

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There are many sexual myths and I have given many talks about them. However, the biggest sexual myth of all is: “You have to be good at it!” The idea of being a sexual virtuoso, to perform in such a way that there should be a standing ovation (no pun intended) takes you totally off the mark of the greatest pleasures of sex.  Feeling the need to be good at it deprives you of the joy of exploring, doing things…

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5 Reasons to Have Sex More Often

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What is the bottom line about sex when it comes to committed relationships? We basically don’t have enough of it.  We get too busy, we have other priorities that take precedence and then we just fall into a rut(ine). Here’s 5 Reasons why you should have sex more often with your mate. Your body is built for pleasure.  Why underutilize this gift that you have been given?  You deserve it! It unclogs your system.  When you have sex routinely, it…

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Does Love Make Sex Better?

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A Penn State study has revealed that 78% of heterosexual women between 20 and 68 years old believe that love makes sex physically more satisfying.  Only 18% of women interviewed said that love was unnecessary for a fulfilling sexual relationship. My client couples seem to confirm this.  When there is a sense of deep caring, both women AND men have stated to me that the sex was better. I know that one of the reasons is that love creates an element…

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Are You Keeping ANY Secrets from Your Partner?

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Secrets are problematic in relationships for these reasons: 1)     You unconsciously begin distancing yourself from your partner when you keep something form him or her. 2)     You have a higher chance of acting out in ways such as cheating, keeping more secrets (slippery slope phenomena) and even being cruel to your partner (see # 3 below). 3)     You have more inner shame even if you try to justify it and this shame can make you tougher on yourself and your…

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