The Perfect (Offbeat) Date For Your Mate

The Perfect (Offbeat) Date For Your Mate

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I hope that you find much of my writing thought provoking and profound. This article is not about being profound; it is what I hope it creatively pragmatic and suggestive of a few things you can do this week with your beloved! But hopefully a little different than the typical (which is perfectly ok) dinner with a movie experience. I hope you find one of these ideas perfect for you and your partner. Or maybe with a modification you can…

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Marriage Monogamy and Fidelity: Where to Draw the Line

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Where Should You Draw The Line When it Comes to Marriage Monogamy and Fidelity? Often times there are gray areas but there is one place where you MUST draw the line in your relationship. Watch the video to find out what that is and how to deal  successfully with common situations that arise in many relationships. Here’s my bottom line when it comes to Marriage Monogamy and Fidelity: Make sure you have a solid marriage/relationship and that you do everything…

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Keys to a Long Hot Marriage

Keys to a Long Hot Marriage: How I Create Novelty in My Intimate Relationship

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As I write in my book The Long Hot Marriage, there are many keys to creating one.  Introducing novelty into the relationship is one of the many keys to doing that.  I am following up my Tuesday article with 5 ways I introduce novelty into my relationship.  Notice that adding novelty is not only about sex but also for sure adding novelty in your sex life is very important as well.  Novelty keeps things stimulating and fresh for the relationship…

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Evolutionary Psychology and Lust, Romance and Attachment

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The three different brain pathways of intimacy Modern research on couples has shown that there are three types of intimacy in relationships all with different brain pathways, different body chemicals involved and different energies.  Lust happens in the very beginning of most courtships.  This stage lasts roughly about 6 months of a new relationship.  Romantic love may follow if there is good physical or emotional chemistry between two people.  This stage lasts roughly about 4 years, which evolutionary principles state…

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Time To Celebrate your Relationship and Open Up to Love

It’s Time To Celebrate your Relationship and Open Up to Love

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CELEBRATE!  One of my favorite words.  The Merriam-Webster definition of ‘celebrate’ is: to do something special or enjoyable for an important event, occasion, holiday, etc. to praise (someone or something) : to say that (someone or something) is great or important This is the season that is most marked by celebration; many of the world’s religions have holidays to celebrate and of course we had Thanksgiving at the end of November and December ends with the celebration of the welcoming…

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Vacation with Your Partner

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Do you remember how it was in the beginning of your relationship? Everything was sizzling, and you hung on every word of your partner; you were in the delight of discovering more about each other. Do you miss those feelings of connection? I have a super simple way to reconnect and rekindle with each other. All you have to do is take a vacation everyday with your partner.  What? Don’t worry, it doesn’t mean you have to live in Tahiti and abandon…

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Your Relationship Toolkit

By | Communication, Holidays, Intimacy, Love Languages, Marital Advice, Marriage Advice, Relationships, Romance, Sexy, Successful Marriages, The 5 Love Languages, The Five Love Languages | No Comments

During this month of November, I will be writing about three things for your Relationship Toolkit.  These tools are 3 of the most effective ways to lift the energy of yourself, your partner and your relationship.  Next week I will be talking about your Love Language.  Credit goes to Gary Chapman who wrote the book, “The Five Love Languages.”  I have done workshops using his ideas and they were total successes.  As you learn and speak the love language of…

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Communication in Relationships: Effective and Destructive

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Effective: Clean communication- clean communication is when the only intent of your communication is to reveal something about yourself. Example: I am angry with you for getting defensive rather than listening. Destructive: Unclean communication- unclean communication is when you have other intentions such as punishing the other person defending yourself, getting rid of your own tension or proving you are right. Example: Yelling loudly- your listening skills suck!  (Getting rid of tension) Effective: Being receptive which includes dropping your own…

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Communication: Bickering, Yelling, Withdrawing, and Suppressing

By | Communication, Conflict Resolution, Counseling, Family Relationships, Healing, Intimacy, Long Hot Marriage, Love, Love advice, Marital Advice, Marital Problems, Marriage, Marriage Advice, Marriage Problems, Relationships, Successful Marriages, Toxic Relationships, Videos | 2 Comments

Ever have a simple item of discussion turn into a multiple hour fight? What should have been a simple chat, becomes another battle; and by the end of it, you’re no closer together. I see it all the time with the couples I help. It comes down to a few styles of communication that are standing in the way of smooth sailing.  Watch this video to find out what kind of dynamic is going on in your home. And of…

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Ready for Love? Show tonight featuring Yours Truly!

By | Communication, Conflict Resolution, Counseling, Creating More Passion in Marriage, Great Sex, Intimacy, Long Hot Marriage, Love, Love advice, Marital Advice, Marital Problems, Marriage, Marriage Advice, Marriage Problems, Relationships, Romance, Sex, Sexy, Successful Marriages | One Comment

  We will discuss maintaining or adding more passion and intimacy to your long term relationship. Why is it hard to keep passion alive? How to develop “emotional muscle”? Have effective communication Perceptions of your partner What is romance? Keep romance alive in relationship Be courageous & experimental Turn up the love volume and listen to the show here: Or check out the archive here:

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