7 Ways To Make Sure Your Partner Will Leave You

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One thing I have learned as a marriage and sex therapist is that our role models have fallen short in instructing us how to have a thriving marriage.  It’s not their fault; they just did not know. The good news is that there are guides “out there” and resources inside of each one of us that could help us experience the committed relationship we would love to have.  So read between the lines in this article! Here are 7 ways…

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3 Feelings Couples Experience in a Successful Relationship

By | Committment, Communication, Creating More Passion in Marriage, Great Sex, Healing, Infidelity, Intimacy, Long Hot Marriage, Love, Love advice, Marital Advice, Marital Problems, Marriage, Marriage Advice, Marriage Problems, Relationships, Romance, Sex, Sexy, Success Advice, Successful Marriages | One Comment

We have a whole range of feelings that we experience throughout our days as well as with our partner. However, there are three feelings I can think of that happy couples feel a lot. The first one I will mention is courage. Actually courage is an essential feeling to get us to take the action necessary to create a happy, vibrant relationship. With courage, you try new things with your partner in and out of the bedroom. With courage, you…

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What Toxic, Stagnant and Good Relationships Have In Common

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I have been writing about toxic relationships. These are relationships where you are negatively affected physically, emotionally and spiritually because of the cruel, self-absorbed, neglectful or dependent behavior of an intimate partner. Stagnant relationships can also affect us in negative ways by leaving us bored, frustrated and less emotionally alive. So what do these 2 kinds of relationships have in common with good relationships? In all three, there is room for improvement. It is easy to see how the first…

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Play a Sexy Game with Your Partner

By | Creating More Passion in Marriage, Great Sex, Intimacy, Love, Marriage, Marriage Advice, Relationships, Romance, Sex, Sexy, Soulmate, Todd’s Thursday Thought | One Comment

This is recycling of a previous Thursday thought. I chose this one because I feel that it is very important to be playful and adventurous with your partner.  This weekend, play a stripping game with your partner. Come up with some trivia questions what you each believe your partner has at least a chance of knowing the answer to. Make sure that you know the answer. If your partner answers the question right, you take off an article of clothing….

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Five Ways to Keep Porn from Damaging Your Relationship

By | Communication, Creating More Passion in Marriage, Great Sex, Long Hot Marriage, Love, Love advice, Marital Advice, Marital Problems, Marriage, Marriage Advice, Marriage Problems, Pornography, Relationships, Sex, Sexy, Successful Marriages, Toxic Relationships | One Comment

Those of you that are reading my blogs regularly can see that in the month of April, I am writing about porn and its affect on relationships. It is a “juicy” topic that evokes a lot of reactions in people. Today, I will list the 5 ways to keep porn from damaging your relationship. First, I want to include much of what I wrote in last week’s blog as a prelude to my list. I am a sex therapist. I…

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Five Ways for Parents to Remember They are Lovers Too

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Having young or even adolescent children around can put a serious dent in a couple’s intimate life. But it does not have to be that way! With a little thought, planning and attention, parents can be lovers too! Here are 5 ways to bring back that “lover” feeling: 1. Have an army of babysitters ready to assist. Having multiple choices will maximize the probability of actually getting one. Don’t just depend on your mother or mother-in-law. Then go out on…

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It Takes A Hell Of A Lot More Than Love To Make A Relationship Last

By | Committment, Communication, Creating More Passion in Marriage, Intimacy, Love, Love advice, Love Languages, Marriage, Marriage Advice, Relationships, Romance, Sexy, Successful Marriages | One Comment

Falling in love is great.  All the feel good hormones are flowing and there is a state of euphoria that can last for months and for some couples even a little longer than that.  However, eventually, you discover their flaws and rediscover yours especially with the help of a complaining spouse.  Falling in love takes having hormones; staying in love requires emotional fortitude, deeper vision, patience and a developing ability to let go of the negative to make room for…

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Great Communication = Hot Sex

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Verbal and nonverbal communication is a portal for hot sex. That may sound like a bold statement but it is true. As a marriage and sex therapist with many years of helping couples rekindle passion, healthy communication is the missing link for hot sex. We have not learned how to communicate effectively when in emotional pain because we never saw our parents do it. This leads to a disconnect between the partners. Women all around the world seem to agree…

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Play a sexy game with your partner

By | Creating More Passion in Marriage, Great Sex, Intimacy, Long Hot Marriage, Love, Love advice, Relationships, Romance, Sexy, Successful Marriages, Todd’s Thursday Thought | No Comments

This weekend, play a stripping game with your partner.   Come up with some trivia questions what you each believe your partner has at least a chance of knowing the answer to. Make sure that you know the answer. If your partner answers the question right, you take off an article of clothing.  (Make sure you have enough articles of clothing to make the game last a while). If your partner gets the answer wrong, he or she has to…

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