Make Her Want You More

Make Her Want You More: Creating Polarity in Your Relationship

By | Attraction, Communication, Femininity, Long Hot Marriage, Marriage Advice, Masculinity, Sex, Sexual Desire | No Comments

Every relationship is different and there are many ways to create a passionate relationship. One thing I have found though, that is pretty constant in both heterosexual and homosexual relationships: Opposites attract; opposites in the sense of masculine and feminine energies. The masculine in all of you whether you are a man or a woman is the part of you that could “penetrate,” make an impact and lead. The feminine in you is the part that can receive, allow to…

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How to create more romance in your relationship

Create More Romance: How to get the sexy back in your relationship

By | Creating More Passion in Marriage, Great Sex, Intimacy, Long Hot Marriage, Romance, Sexual Desire | No Comments

In this video I''ll show you how easy it is to create more romance and sex in your relationship.   I cover how to get the sexy back into your intimate relationship when you've gone beyond the lust and romantic stages.   The good news is that you can have it all... that comfortable, loving side PLUS the exciting lust & romantically driven side all at once.   It just takes a little planning let me show you how simple it...

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How to Increase Orgasmic Potential in Women

How to Increase Orgasmic Potential in Women

By | Arousal, Communication, EMDR, Female orgasmic disorder, Intimacy, Marital Advice, Sexual Desire, Sexual Dysfunction, Sexual Trauma | No Comments

Orgasms are wonderful to experience and I will be writing about ways to maximize the chances of having one (or multiple).  But first- let’s be clear.  Putting too much emphasis on the end result of most things takes away the pleasure of the process.  This is exponentially true when it comes to enjoying our sexual selves.  And the truth is for some people; they cannot experience orgasm no matter what they do.  So, if you are one of those people,…

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Increasing Female Sexual Arousal and Desire

Increasing Female Sexual Arousal and Desire

By | Arousal, Eroticism, Great Sex, Intimacy, Marriage Advice, Passion, Sensuality, Sex, Sexual Desire, Sexual Dysfunction | No Comments

This month I am writing about women and sexuality.  It is a big and important topic and I will cover one part of it with each blog.  I have seen many women come into my office with or without their partner concerned about their lack of interest regarding sex.  The first thing I want to say about this is that the most recent Diagnostic Manual for those of us in the mental health field has combined female arousal and desire/interest…

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Talking Dirty

Talking Dirty

By | Eroticism, Great Sex, Intimacy, Long Hot Marriage, Love, Love advice, Marital Advice, Passion, Relationships, Romance, Sensuality, Sex, Sexual Desire, Sexy Marriage | No Comments

Another Channel to Increase Eroticism with Your Partner “Talking dirty” is a kind of sex play involving sensual or sexual statements or questions in order to arouse your partner or yourself through words and imagination, and heighten sexual pleasure before and during sex. Using dirty talk can stimulate your partner’s major senses: sound, sight and touch. Lovers use dirty talk as a way of expressing their wants and needs in the heat of the moment. Talking dirty to your partner…

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My 3 best tips for Increasing Eroticism in Your Intimate Relationship

My 3 best tips (at least for now) for Increasing Eroticism in Your Intimate Relationship

By | Commitment, Eroticism, Great Sex, Intimacy, Long Hot Marriage, Love, Marital Advice, Passion, Relationships, Romance, Sensuality, Sex, Sexual Desire, Sexy Marriage, Successful Marriages | No Comments

1. Think about sex more even if you usually don’t.  Spend a minute or less every hour of your workday  (or time when you and your partner are apart) thinking of what you can do with him or what he can do for you.   (That’s all it takes). Imagine your sexiest self- what are you wearing, what are you saying, what are you doing?  Remember- your brain is your sex organ- Use it! 2. Take your focus off having an orgasm….

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Letting Go of Guilt About Your Sexuality

Letting Go of Guilt About Your Sexuality, Learning to Trust Your Desire

By | Commitment, Intimacy, Long Hot Marriage, Marital Advice, Passion, Relationships, Romance, Sex, Sexual Desire | No Comments

Believe it or not, we still live in a relatively Puritanical society.  It is a society that still contains many taboos about sex.  Going even beyond sex, many of us learned to distrust desires of all kinds if it did not fit the idea of what a parent, authority figure or even culture felt we should desire.  That could be about sex, about a career, about a passion for a hobby, etc.  So our deeper sexual desires and other pursuits…

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Healing from sexual trauma

Healing from Sexual Trauma

By | Counseling, Dysfunctional Family, EMDR, Healing, Healing from Sexual Trauma, Rape, Sexual abuse, Sexual Desire, Sexual Trauma, Trauma | No Comments

Many clients come to see me because of symptoms due to either molest, rape or other sexual trauma.  Two weeks ago, I talked about types of sexual trauma and last week I talked about how sexual trauma can affect sexuality.  This article, though brief will succinctly describe some of the things I do and recommend to help people heal from sexual trauma.  Here are 7 keys to healing from sexual trauma: 1)   Relationships are very important.  Having loved ones, or…

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What to Do About Premature Ejaculation

What to Do About Premature Ejaculation: Possibly Nothing?

By | Communication, Sex, Sexual Desire, Sexual Dysfunction, Sexual Problem, Sexual Trauma | No Comments

Premature ejaculation was described in medical books almost 100 years ago.   In the past, men who had this problem were considered weak or selfish.  This could not be further from the truth according to all the latest research.  Whereas the main past theories of what causes this issue were psychological, more recently, the research clearly points to more biological reasons.  For example, variances in central neurotransmission and serotonin receptor functioning are contributors to how long a person can delay ejaculation…

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When One Spouse Feels Like the Parent

When One Spouse Feels Like the Parent and the Other Feels Like the Child

By | Low sexual desire, Relationships, Sex, Sexual Desire, Sexual Dysfunction, Sexual Problem | No Comments

How It Affects Sexual Desire In just about every couple I help, there is a father/daughter or mother/child pattern that has manifested.  In other words, much of the time, one of the spouses feels more like a parent; a person who has to manage, restrict or compensate for the other person.  I hear these people say statements such as- “I feel like I have another child” “I think of everyone and he (or she) only thinks of him (or herself.”…

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