Honoring Your Fantasies and Your Committed Relationship

Honoring Your Fantasies and Your Committed Relationship

By | Creating More Passion in Marriage, Healthy Marriage, Long Hot Marriage, Love advice, Marriage Advice, Passion, Romance, Sensuality, Sex, Sexual Desire | No Comments

I am a marriage and sex therapist.  We all have fantasies…that’s a normal part of being human.  Today’s article is all about honoring your fantasies and your committed relationship…yes, that’s possible so please read on. In my practice and in society in general I see far to many people are getting divorced and too many people are being unfaithful.   My main purposes in life besides helping couples heal is to help prevent these problems. The reasons for these problems are multiple and…

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How to Make Your Spouse Young and Sexy Again

How to Make Your Spouse Young and Sexy Again

By | Intimacy, Romance, Sex, Sexy Marriage | No Comments

Research has shown the power of relationships on one’s health and mental health. Relationships that are nurturing and compassionate lead to the flowing of healthy hormones and bodily chemicals.  On the other hand, I know that I have said far more than once- “Wow, look at that person, he (or she) has had a hard life.”  What makes me say that?  It is usually when I see that someone seems older than his or her years; more wrinkles and just…

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The Five Biggest Blocks to Intimacy

The Five Biggest Blocks to Intimacy

By | Communication, Intimacy, Passion, Sex, Sexual Dysfunction, Sexy Marriage | No Comments

Intimacy is about feeling close to your partner.  It is about feeling safe enough to be vulnerable.  It is about having an interpersonal adventure by trying new things together in and out of the bedroom.   In this article, I write about the five main obstacles that prevent many couples from enjoying the deep pleasure of depth and feeling genuinely bonded.   If you have one or more of these obstacles happening in your relationship, just remember that I assist…

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The Courage & Safety of Intimacy

By | Healthy Marriage, Intimacy, Love advice, Marital Advice, Relationships, Romance, Sensuality, Sex, Successful Marriages | No Comments

Are you letting fear ruin the possibility of having intimate love? In this video, marriage and sex therapist Todd Creager discusses the courage and safety of intimacy, and learning to give and receive love. He'll show you the 2 critical steps that you need to take in order to create the right environment in your relationship where you can relax and be truly intimate with your partner. "Intimacy is the practice of courage." -Todd Creager I encourage you to be...

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Sex Addiction or High Libido_What is the Difference

Sex Addiction or High Libido: What is the Difference?

By | Infidelity, Libido, Sex, Sex Drive, Sexual Addiction, Sexual Dysfunction | No Comments

I am going to get a little personal here. I like sex; I may be under some illusion but after being married for almost 33 years, my sexual response is about the same as when I was far younger. I like that I like sex and I could say that my wife likes that I like sex as well. One of my main areas of clinical expertise is helping people with low sexual desire, and I have had both men…

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How to put a stop to anxiety over your performance

Men: How to put a stop to anxiety over your performance

By | Great Sex, Intimacy, Sex | No Comments

In this video Todd talks about how put a stop to anxiety over your performance in bed. You'll want to watch this video whether you are a man or a woman as Todd dispels common beliefs around intimacy and male performance. He shares what women really want from their partner based upon his 30+ years in private practice working with couples. In this video Todd talks about how put a stop to anxiety over your performance in bed. You'll want to watch this video whether you...

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When a Man Has Low Sexual Desire

When a Man Has Low Sexual Desire: Causes and Solutions

By | Attraction, Long Hot Marriage, Low sexual desire, Marital Advice, Masculinity, Sex, Sexual abuse, Sexy Marriage | No Comments

In my practice, a good proportion of my clients with low sexual desire are men.  This is particularly challenging because men have grown up with the myth that they should always have sexual desire and be ready to pounce on one’s partner at any time.  If that is not the case, it saps the self-esteem of the man and can even preoccupy his thinking. The truth is that men are not machines and there are many factors that could cause…

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Make Her Want You More

Make Her Want You More: Creating Polarity in Your Relationship

By | Attraction, Communication, Femininity, Long Hot Marriage, Marriage Advice, Masculinity, Sex, Sexual Desire | One Comment

Every relationship is different and there are many ways to create a passionate relationship. One thing I have found though, that is pretty constant in both heterosexual and homosexual relationships: Opposites attract; opposites in the sense of masculine and feminine energies. The masculine in all of you whether you are a man or a woman is the part of you that could “penetrate,” make an impact and lead. The feminine in you is the part that can receive, allow to…

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surviving marital affairs and intimacy issues

Interview: Overcoming a marital affair and intimacy issues

By | Infidelity, Intimacy, Marriage, Marriage Advice, Marriage Problems, Relationships, Romance, Sex | No Comments

I was recently interviewed by The Child Law Help Center about how to build an improved relationship after a marital affair and/or intimacy issues. In it I discuss the two main reasons why couples contact me for help: Lack of intimacy in the relationship Infidelity You'll want to check out the entire article to see what I have to say about the factors leading up to both situations, and my opinion on whether or not I think the relationship can...

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Orgasmic Issues in Women

Orgasmic Issues in Women

By | Arousal, Communication, Eroticism, Female orgasmic disorder, Intimacy, Passion, Sex, Sexual Dysfunction | No Comments

I have worked with many women and couples where the female is having trouble experiencing orgasms.   There are a lot of myths and false information.  As you will see below, physiological, emotional, and relational factors can all contribute to the problem.  However, as we are discovering in many aspects of sexuality, there is no real “normal,” and woman and their partners need to be careful not to be critical of the woman having orgasmic difficulties. Here are ten facts about Female…

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