The bottom line on healing from infidelity

The Bottom Line when it Comes to Healing From Infidelity

By | Cheating, Commitment, Communication, Infidelity, Intimacy, Marital Problems, Marriage Advice, Relationships | No Comments

Infidelity It can tear at the very fabric of a relationship. I see couples devastated by this every day I am at my office.  And yet, I find that many of these couples find away to heal from the crisis and develop more evolved, more connected and more loving relationships than they had ever had before. I work with some of these couples on a weekly basis; others come for a weekend intensive.   However the couple decides to proceed with…

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Todd’s interview with John Gray-the world’ s #1 bestselling author on relationships

By | John Gray, Love advice, Marital Advice, Marriage Advice, Relationships | No Comments

Live Interview with John Gray Books Best Selling Author Listen to Todd and John Gray chat about relationships, hormones and why you need to slow down and unplug. In this 60 minute interview with international best selling author and relationship expert, John Gray...Todd focuses on his newest book Beyond Mars and Venus. Watch the video and find out John's evolution of thinking about relationships and why he decided to write his latest book.  He also chats with Todd about the...

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Breaking Free from the 5 Dysfunctional Roles

Breaking Free from the 5 Dysfunctional Roles

By | Dysfunctional Family, Family Relationships, family Roles, Relationships, Toxic Relationships | 3 Comments

Part 2 of the Dysfunctional Roles article Two weeks ago, I wrote an article describing 5 roles that people inherit when they come from dysfunctional families. Of course, you may personally come up with more roles; I just listed the ones I see that are most common. In this article, I copied and pasted the description of each role from the previous article and then underneath I describe ways you can break the chains of those roles to become more…

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The Courage & Safety of Intimacy

By | Healthy Marriage, Intimacy, Love advice, Marital Advice, Relationships, Romance, Sensuality, Sex, Successful Marriages | No Comments

Are you letting fear ruin the possibility of having intimate love? In this video, marriage and sex therapist Todd Creager discusses the courage and safety of intimacy, and learning to give and receive love. He'll show you the 2 critical steps that you need to take in order to create the right environment in your relationship where you can relax and be truly intimate with your partner. "Intimacy is the practice of courage." -Todd Creager I encourage you to be...

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Do This First Before You Begin To Communicate

Do This First Before You Begin To Communicate

By | Communication, Conflict Resolution, Listening Skills, Marital Advice, Marriage, Marriage Advice, Relationships | No Comments

A Must Read To Improve Your Communication Skills Would you like to be a more effective communicator?  Would you like your intimate partner to listen to you more?   How about having better results at a networking meeting?  There is one thing you can do which will make all the difference in the world in what you bring out of the other person.  Before I spell it out, let me say that neurobiologists talk about right brain to right brain communication….

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Alternatives to Infidelity - Healthy Ways to Regulate Your Emotions

Alternatives to Infidelity – Healthy Ways to Regulate Your Emotions

By | Commitment, Communication, Infidelity, Intimacy, Relationships | No Comments

In my last blog, I talked about another way to think about infidelity- Infidelity is a way to regulate our emotions.  Down regulating consists of managing hyperarousal, stress and anxiety. Up-regulating consists of arousing or enlivening ourselves when we feel bored or empty.  I would recommend reading that article before continuing to read this one if you have not read it already.  I am not saying that if you do what I write below- infidelity issues will cease; it is…

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Parenting and Romance

Parenting and Romance: Being Lovers When You Have Young Ones Around

By | Commitment, Communication, Love advice, Marital Advice, Relationships, Romance, Successful Marriages | No Comments

Many of my couples in my practice have babies and/or young children.  This is often when their sex life and romantic life wanes.  One or both parents are sleep deprived when the kids are very young.  As the kids get older but are still young, there is homework to help them with, extracurricular activities to get them to as well as all the other aspects of life that we need to take care of.  So when the heck can we…

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surviving marital affairs and intimacy issues

Interview: Overcoming a marital affair and intimacy issues

By | Infidelity, Intimacy, Marriage, Marriage Advice, Marriage Problems, Relationships, Romance, Sex | No Comments

I was recently interviewed by The Child Law Help Center about how to build an improved relationship after a marital affair and/or intimacy issues. In it I discuss the two main reasons why couples contact me for help: Lack of intimacy in the relationship Infidelity You'll want to check out the entire article to see what I have to say about the factors leading up to both situations, and my opinion on whether or not I think the relationship can...

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Diffuse Conflict Quickly

Diffuse Conflict Quickly

By | Commitment, Conflict Resolution, Family Relationships, Harmony, Intimacy, Long Hot Marriage, Love, Marital Advice, Marriage Advice, Peace, Relationships | No Comments

A Powerful Tool to Go From Conflict to Peace I want to discuss with you one of the most powerful tools I know that can de-escalate conflict.  This tool can be used with your intimate partner as well as in any relationship.  It is particularly useful at this time of the year when underlying conflicts seem to come to the surface.  (I am already seeing it in the phone calls I am getting since last week and continuing this week)….

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The Link Between Gratitude and Your Sex Life

The Link Between Gratitude and Your Sex Life

By | Creating More Passion in Marriage, Eroticism, Gratitude, Great Sex, Long Hot Marriage, Marital Advice, Passion, Relationships, Sensuality, Thanksgiving | No Comments

What you focus on may determine the quality of your sex life. I want to talk about this from 3 angles: 1) How gratitude affects your sense of psychological well being, 2) How gratitude affects the wellbeing of your partner and 3) how gratitude affects your brain. Then I can do the easy job of linking all that to your sex life. It has been clearly established in the field of mental health that what we think affects how we…

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