Infidelity- When Does It Make Sense to Stay

Infidelity- When Does It Make Sense to Stay? The Necessary Seven Conditions

By | Commitment, Communication, Healing, Infidelity, Intimacy, Love advice, Marital Problems, Marriage Advice | One Comment

We are hearing about it all the time in the media- politicians, celebrities- infidelity is rampant and is as painful as it is rampant.   Maybe you have experienced it either as one who was betrayed or the one who betrayed. I have many couples each week that I work with on this painful problem and most of the time there is ambivalence on the part of the betrayed partner.  Should I stay or should I go?  This article is discussing…

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Staying connected to your partner

Relationship Mastery: Staying Connected with Your Partner

By | Communication, Marriage Advice, Relationships, Successful Marriages | No Comments

I've recorded a new video for the Relationship Mastery series and it's got great tips on staying connected with your partner. I've been working with couples for 30+ years and I see that they all have one thing in common...An amazing capacity for passionate and nurturing relationships. In this video I discuss the one thing that holds us back from having that relationship with our partner. And I share what successful couples do to have more passion, romance and laughter...

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Relationship Mastery- Increasing Self-Love

Relationship Mastery: Increasing Self-Love

By | Communication, Intimacy, Long Hot Marriage, Love, Marriage Advice, Relationships, Sex | No Comments

Love is circulation.  The more we give it, the more we receive it; the more we receive it, the more we give it.   Co-dependency is not love because co-dependency is giving to others with the habit of sacrificing yourself.  This giving cannot be sustained because the co-dependent person burns out, grows in resentment and ultimately can hate.  This happens because the codependent person is closed off to self-love. Self-love requires accessing your needs and wants; your true self- the…

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Relationship Mastery connection

Relationship Mastery: Have the Connection You Long For

By | Great Sex, Healthy Marriage, Intimacy, Long Hot Marriage, Marital Advice, Marriage Advice, Relationships, Sex | No Comments

In one month, I will launch a brand new online program…Relationship Mastery: Have the Connection You Long For. The main theme of this 3-month program is that you have the resources, ability and creative power to build a loving, pleasurable and passionate relationship with your partner- whether it is your current partner or your partner of the future.  This month I will be discussing different aspects of relationship mastery such as: Removing Blocks to Love Increasing your love for yourself…

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Loving eye contact

The Most Important Part of Your Body When it Comes to Romance

By | Healthy Marriage, Intimacy, Marriage Advice, Passion, Romance, Sexy Marriage | 4 Comments

It’s not your sex organs.  Your next guess might be your brain.   Nope, that’s not where I am going in this article.   Before I tell you my answer based on my research as both a clinician and a professional, I want to talk about the word ‘attention.’   ‘Attention’ is one of my favorite words as I think it is the closest synonym to the word ‘love.’  Whatever I attend to, I love.  If I attend to my…

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The bottom line on healing from infidelity

The Bottom Line when it Comes to Healing From Infidelity

By | Cheating, Commitment, Communication, Infidelity, Intimacy, Marital Problems, Marriage Advice, Relationships | No Comments

Infidelity It can tear at the very fabric of a relationship. I see couples devastated by this every day I am at my office.  And yet, I find that many of these couples find away to heal from the crisis and develop more evolved, more connected and more loving relationships than they had ever had before. I work with some of these couples on a weekly basis; others come for a weekend intensive.   However the couple decides to proceed with…

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Todd’s interview with John Gray-the world’ s #1 bestselling author on relationships

By | John Gray, Love advice, Marital Advice, Marriage Advice, Relationships | 2 Comments

Live Interview with John Gray Books Best Selling Author Listen to Todd and John Gray chat about relationships, hormones and why you need to slow down and unplug. In this 60 minute interview with international best selling author and relationship expert, John Gray...Todd focuses on his newest book Beyond Mars and Venus. Watch the video and find out John's evolution of thinking about relationships and why he decided to write his latest book.  He also chats with Todd about the...

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Honoring Your Fantasies and Your Committed Relationship

Honoring Your Fantasies and Your Committed Relationship

By | Creating More Passion in Marriage, Healthy Marriage, Long Hot Marriage, Love advice, Marriage Advice, Passion, Romance, Sensuality, Sex, Sexual Desire | No Comments

I am a marriage and sex therapist.  We all have fantasies…that’s a normal part of being human.  Today’s article is all about honoring your fantasies and your committed relationship…yes, that’s possible so please read on. In my practice and in society in general I see far to many people are getting divorced and too many people are being unfaithful.   My main purposes in life besides helping couples heal is to help prevent these problems. The reasons for these problems are multiple and…

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3 Words More Important than I Love You

3 Words More Important than I Love You

By | Communication, Intimacy, Marriage, Marriage Advice, Marriage Problems | 2 Comments

“I love you.”  What could be better than that?  Saying a heartfelt “I love you,” to your intimate partner can bring you both closer and evoke feelings such as warmth and compassion.  However, many people say those three words, and many relationships are still in a heap of trouble.  I have three words for you that if practiced regularly and genuinely will truly transform your relationship and may just be the most direct route to a loving relationship. Communication is…

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Do This First Before You Begin To Communicate

Do This First Before You Begin To Communicate

By | Communication, Conflict Resolution, Listening Skills, Marital Advice, Marriage, Marriage Advice, Relationships | No Comments

A Must Read To Improve Your Communication Skills Would you like to be a more effective communicator?  Would you like your intimate partner to listen to you more?   How about having better results at a networking meeting?  There is one thing you can do which will make all the difference in the world in what you bring out of the other person.  Before I spell it out, let me say that neurobiologists talk about right brain to right brain communication….

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