3 More Signs You Came from a Dysfunctional Family

By | Dysfunctional Family, Marriage, Marriage Advice, Sexual Dysfunction, Toxic Relationships, Trauma | No Comments

Two years ago, I came out with a video blog- Seven Signs You Came From a Dysfunctional Family. Apparently, it has resonated with many people as indicated by the high number of views. Feel free to watch it here.  I want to add three more “signs” to the list because we tend to blame ourselves or our partner for things that may have been patterns we learned in our family of origin. This month I will be writing and talking…

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surviving marital affairs and intimacy issues

Interview: Overcoming a marital affair and intimacy issues

By | Infidelity, Intimacy, Marriage, Marriage Advice, Marriage Problems, Relationships, Romance, Sex | No Comments

I was recently interviewed by The Child Law Help Center about how to build an improved relationship after a marital affair and/or intimacy issues. In it I discuss the two main reasons why couples contact me for help: Lack of intimacy in the relationship Infidelity You'll want to check out the entire article to see what I have to say about the factors leading up to both situations, and my opinion on whether or not I think the relationship can...

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Meditation, Marriage and other miscellaneous matters

Meditation, Marriage and other Miscellaneous Matters

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The Benefits of Developing a meditation practice Wednesday night is my Yoga/Meditation class night.  Wednesday nights I notice how I handle interpersonal issues with my wife so much more lovingly.  I handle my emotions more effectively and it takes so much more to get me stressed.   I remember a few classes where I was angry with my wife over some matter in the beginning of class and I saw her and our situation totally differently at the end of class….

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If You Want to Cheat, Just Tell Your Partner First!

If You Want to Cheat, Just Tell Your Partner First!

By | Commitment, Communication, Infidelity, Long Hot Marriage, Marital Problems, Marriage, Relationships, Sex | No Comments

A True Story Let me tell you about a couple who saw me for relationship issues but avoided the more damaging issue of infidelity.  This is their (abridged) story. They had their second child and the kids were less than 2 years apart.  The husband was frustrated with the lack of sex and intimacy.  She was exhausted a lot and the last thing on her mind was having sexual pleasure.  She just needed to get through another day.  They both…

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Your Face Reminds Me of My Mother

Your Face Reminds Me of My Mother and other compliments

By | Communication, Intimacy, Long Hot Marriage, Love, Love advice, Marital Advice, Marriage, Passion, Relationships, Romance, Sexy Marriage | No Comments

Compliments like what is in the title of this article may not exactly be what your partner would want to hear, especially if it is the wife saying it to her husband. However, I wanted you to read this important information that is instrumental to a happy intimate relationship, so I wanted to get your attention. John and Julie Gottman, wonderful marriage researchers and therapists have studied couples for over 3 decades and have come up with a number of…

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3 Daily Rituals that will Keep the Passion in Your Marriage

3 Daily Rituals that will Keep the Passion in Your Marriage

By | Committment, Communication, Creating More Passion in Marriage, Intimacy, Long Hot Marriage, Love, Marriage, Marriage Advice, Passion, Relationships, Romance | No Comments

Weddings, Bar and Bat Mitzvahs and funerals are rituals that make us slow down and have deeper, more profound life experiences. These rituals help us celebrate the good times and deal and heal from the bad times.  In marriage, we also need rituals to deal with the good and bad times and these rituals will keep as well as increase the passion and aliveness in your intimate relationship.  The rituals I am about to discuss are best done on a…

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The Humorous side of relationships

The Humorous Side of Relationship Problems

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Relationships can be challenging and painful at times and this month I have been writing about the serious topic of infidelity.  So for the 5th Thursday in March, how about a little humor! “Someone told me the delightful story of the crusader who put a chastity belt on his wife and gave the key to his best friend for safekeeping, in case of his death. He had ridden only a few miles away when his friend, riding hard, caught up…

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The Perfect (Offbeat) Date For Your Mate

The Perfect (Offbeat) Date For Your Mate

By | Committment, Communication, Intimacy, Long Hot Marriage, Love, Love advice, Marital Advice, Marriage, Marriage Advice, Passion, Relationships, Romance, Successful Marriages | No Comments

I hope that you find much of my writing thought provoking and profound. This article is not about being profound; it is what I hope it creatively pragmatic and suggestive of a few things you can do this week with your beloved! But hopefully a little different than the typical (which is perfectly ok) dinner with a movie experience. I hope you find one of these ideas perfect for you and your partner. Or maybe with a modification you can…

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What a 31 Year Marriage has Taught Me About Romance

What a 31 Year Marriage has Taught Me About Romance

By | Committment, Long Hot Marriage, Love, Love advice, Marital Advice, Marriage, Marriage Advice, Relationships, Romance | No Comments

I have been married 31 and a half years to the day. I just calculated that to be 11,504 days, 276,096 hours and 16,565,760 minutes. OMG- I do not know if I should have done that; I feel a little older than before I took out my iPhone calculator. The point of this is that with all that time that has gone by, I have learned a thing or two about romance even though I am sure that there is…

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