Why There is So Much Infidelity?

Why There is So Much Infidelity?

By | Committment, Infidelity, Intimacy, Love advice, Marital Advice, Marital Problems, Marriage Advice, Marriage Problems, Relationships, Romance | No Comments

Infidelity is very common and a good portion of my practice consists of people coming to see me after discovering there has been an extramarital relationship.  The question is why?  I am going to give my best partial answer, partial because it is such a big question and I as well as other experts in the field can write volumes on this question.  However, for the purpose of this brief writing, I will list these 5 IMPORTANT reasons: 1)   It…

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Genetic Causes of Infidelity

Genetic Causes of Infidelity (and Gingivitis)

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As a professor, I have been discussing the role that hormones and neurochemistry play in attraction, bonding and sexuality in my Human Sexuality class.  Brendon Zietsch, a psychologist in the University of Queensland in Australia says: “Women who carry certain variants of the vasopressin receptor gene are much more likely to engage in “extra pair bonding,” the scientific euphemism for sexual infidelity.”  There are many studies that confirm that oxytocin and vasopressin (hormones) are linked to partner bonding, which are…

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Todd’s Secrets for A Sexy Relationship

By | Creating More Passion in Marriage, Great Sex, Healing, Long Hot Marriage, Love, Love advice, Marital Advice, Marital Problems, Marriage, Marriage Advice, Marriage Problems, Passion, Relationships, Sex, Sexy | No Comments

We’ve all been there. After the HOT beginnings of a relationship, things tend to simmer down, and eventually cool off. It’s totally natural but not unpreventable. If you want a little more sizzle, and less fizzle, watch these 5 easy ways to spark up your love life with your beloved. You can start making your relationship better, tonight!

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Create a New Positive Family Legacy

By | Communication, Counseling, Dysfunctional Family, Family Relationships, Holidays, Marital Advice, Marital Problems, Marriage, Marriage Advice, Marriage Problems, Mind/Body Health, Parenting, Relationships, Toxic Relationships, Videos | No Comments

Family! Ever find your parents’ voice coming out of your mouth? Do you find yourself recreating the same patterns with your partner or children? Are you longing to have a different relationship with your family?  Sometimes, it seems that nothing will ever change. But, you have the ability to change EVERYTHING. By making a few adjustments in how YOU deal with your past, you will liberate your family to a new way of being! Watch this video for a quick, powerful list of 5…

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How Cheating Cheats the Cheater

By | Communication, Dysfunctional Family, Infidelity, Intimacy, Long Hot Marriage, Love, Love advice, Marital Advice, Marital Problems, Marriage, Marriage Advice, Marriage Problems, Parenting, Relationships | One Comment

When infidelity happens, we think if it as the person who had the affair cheated ON his or her partner. And of course that is true! However, I can show you how the cheater cheats him or herself. But firstly, ask yourself if you know someone who cheated who did not make his or her life worse on some level. Or maybe you might have cheated in the past- did you lose out on that choice you made. I would…

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Ashley Madison and Your Marriage

By | Communication, Infidelity, Marital Advice, Marital Problems, Marriage, Marriage Advice, Marriage Problems, Relationships, Sex, Toxic Relationships | No Comments

“Life is short. Have an affair.” This is the motto of the Ashley Madison site; a site where married partners can supposedly meet other married people discreetly and have an affair.   Of course, as we have learned in the news, due to hacking as well as pure technology, there is less discreteness than some of the consumers of the site have hoped for.  I have had more than one female client of mine in recent weeks let me know…

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Why Women Cheat

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I’ve been helping couples survive and thrive after infidelity for 30+ years in my practice. Over the years I have noticed that there is a difference between why women cheat and why men cheat.  Watch the video below where I explain the three reasons why women cheat. I have one piece of advice for women:  don’t be afraid to communicate with your partner and tell him what you need.  Looking for more resources on infidelity?  Check out my infidelity resource…

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Toxic Relationship: Couple Quarreling

Facebook and Infidelity

By | Communication, Infidelity, Intimacy, Marital Problems, Marriage, Marriage Advice, Marriage Problems, Relationships, Sex, Toxic Relationships | No Comments

I have come across several studies that say about 1 in 5 people flirt using Facebook.  My practice is filled with couples that called me due to infidelity that started with social media.  I love social media myself.  It is good for my business and it is fun for personal reasons.   But it can be dangerous.  It can be dangerous because: It is so easily accessible. There are people from our past that we can easily find since so many…

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Communication: Bickering, Yelling, Withdrawing, and Suppressing

By | Communication, Conflict Resolution, Counseling, Family Relationships, Healing, Intimacy, Long Hot Marriage, Love, Love advice, Marital Advice, Marital Problems, Marriage, Marriage Advice, Marriage Problems, Relationships, Successful Marriages, Toxic Relationships, Videos | 2 Comments

Ever have a simple item of discussion turn into a multiple hour fight? What should have been a simple chat, becomes another battle; and by the end of it, you’re no closer together. I see it all the time with the couples I help. It comes down to a few styles of communication that are standing in the way of smooth sailing.  Watch this video to find out what kind of dynamic is going on in your home. And of…

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The Most Important Element Of Communication Nobody Talks About

By | Communication, Conflict Resolution, Coping, Counseling, Healing, Intimacy, Love, Marital Problems, Marriage, Marriage Advice, Marriage Problems | 2 Comments

Say “I” statements. Don’t be defensive. Repeat the words that your partner said. These are a few of the things people hear at basic communication seminars or what they read in communication articles. That is all well and good except that there is something that everyone has to do before anything else so that communication can be effective. And here it is: DROP YOUR AGENDA! What do I mean by that? I mean stop trying to accomplish ANYTHING when your…

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