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Breaking the Shackles of a Dysfunctional Family

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How a Couple Rewrote their Stories to have a Thriving Relationship She came from a family where her father left when she was 5.   She was the oldest of three siblings.  Her mother was mostly in a state of overwhelm and she became the “responsible” child.  Her mother remarried and she grew close to him.  However, he passed away when she was 14 and it was devastating to her. She continued being in the role of the responsible child....

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Gratefulness Can Make you Healthy, Wealthy and Sexy

Gratefulness Can Make you Healthy, Wealthy and Sexy

By | Commitment, Gratitude, Healing, Intimacy, Long Hot Marriage, Marital Advice | No Comments

So, the number one self-healing thing I do is not healthy eating and not exercise.  It is practicing being grateful.  I even am practicing gratefulness right now as I sit having just watched my team; the LA Dodgers lose in the 7th game of a World Series.  Now that takes some doing!  Why is being grateful so important? Feeling grateful leads to your blood vessels dilating, your cortisol lowering, and your muscles relaxing.  A grateful person feels safe and a…

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Todd’s interview with John Gray-the world’ s #1 bestselling author on relationships

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Live Interview with John Gray Books Best Selling Author Listen to Todd and John Gray chat about relationships, hormones and why you need to slow down and unplug. In this 60 minute interview with international best selling author and relationship expert, John Gray...Todd focuses on his newest book Beyond Mars and Venus. Watch the video and find out John's evolution of thinking about relationships and why he decided to write his latest book.  He also chats with Todd about the...

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The Courage & Safety of Intimacy

By | Healthy Marriage, Intimacy, Love advice, Marital Advice, Relationships, Romance, Sensuality, Sex, Successful Marriages | No Comments

Are you letting fear ruin the possibility of having intimate love? In this video, marriage and sex therapist Todd Creager discusses the courage and safety of intimacy, and learning to give and receive love. He'll show you the 2 critical steps that you need to take in order to create the right environment in your relationship where you can relax and be truly intimate with your partner. "Intimacy is the practice of courage." -Todd Creager I encourage you to be...

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Do This First Before You Begin To Communicate

Do This First Before You Begin To Communicate

By | Communication, Conflict Resolution, Listening Skills, Marital Advice, Marriage, Marriage Advice, Relationships | No Comments

A Must Read To Improve Your Communication Skills Would you like to be a more effective communicator?  Would you like your intimate partner to listen to you more?   How about having better results at a networking meeting?  There is one thing you can do which will make all the difference in the world in what you bring out of the other person.  Before I spell it out, let me say that neurobiologists talk about right brain to right brain communication….

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When a Man Has Low Sexual Desire

When a Man Has Low Sexual Desire: Causes and Solutions

By | Attraction, Long Hot Marriage, Low sexual desire, Marital Advice, Masculinity, Sex, Sexual abuse, Sexy Marriage | No Comments

In my practice, a good proportion of my clients with low sexual desire are men.  This is particularly challenging because men have grown up with the myth that they should always have sexual desire and be ready to pounce on one’s partner at any time.  If that is not the case, it saps the self-esteem of the man and can even preoccupy his thinking. The truth is that men are not machines and there are many factors that could cause…

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Creating the Long Hot Marriage

Creating the Long Hot Marriage: 10 Tips Your Parents Never Taught You

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1) Your once hot marriage will probably cool off; that is normal and that is not really a problem. 2) Once your marriage cools off, there are most definitely things you can do to fan those embers and get it hot again. 3) Think about what you used to do that created passion in your relationship and do it again whether you feel like it or not. 4) Yes, in order for passion to be recreated, you need to do romantic and sexy gestures…

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Parenting and Romance

Parenting and Romance: Being Lovers When You Have Young Ones Around

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Many of my couples in my practice have babies and/or young children.  This is often when their sex life and romantic life wanes.  One or both parents are sleep deprived when the kids are very young.  As the kids get older but are still young, there is homework to help them with, extracurricular activities to get them to as well as all the other aspects of life that we need to take care of.  So when the heck can we…

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The Link Between Emotional Pain and Romance

I’m So Mad! Let’s Kiss!: The Link Between Emotional Pain and Romance

By | Commitment, Communication, Intimacy, Love advice, Marital Advice, Marriage Advice, Passion, Romance, Successful Marriages | No Comments

It is easy to be romantic in the beginning of relationships where our focus is on the pleasure and the positives.  But when the relationship continues, we get annoyed, hurt, frustrated and angry with our partner at times.  And we are supposed to be romantic anyway? Yes – pain is inevitable and pain is not the block to romance.  The block to romance happens when we let the pain disconnect us.  Our role models (mainly parents and grandparents) were not…

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How to Increase Orgasmic Potential in Women

How to Increase Orgasmic Potential in Women

By | Arousal, Communication, EMDR, Female orgasmic disorder, Intimacy, Marital Advice, Sexual Desire, Sexual Dysfunction, Sexual Trauma | No Comments

Orgasms are wonderful to experience and I will be writing about ways to maximize the chances of having one (or multiple).  But first- let’s be clear.  Putting too much emphasis on the end result of most things takes away the pleasure of the process.  This is exponentially true when it comes to enjoying our sexual selves.  And the truth is for some people; they cannot experience orgasm no matter what they do.  So, if you are one of those people,…

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