Your Relationship Toolkit

By | Communication, Holidays, Intimacy, Love Languages, Marital Advice, Marriage Advice, Relationships, Romance, Sexy, Successful Marriages, The 5 Love Languages, The Five Love Languages | No Comments

During this month of November, I will be writing about three things for your Relationship Toolkit.  These tools are 3 of the most effective ways to lift the energy of yourself, your partner and your relationship.  Next week I will be talking about your Love Language.  Credit goes to Gary Chapman who wrote the book, “The Five Love Languages.”  I have done workshops using his ideas and they were total successes.  As you learn and speak the love language of…

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It Takes A Hell Of A Lot More Than Love To Make A Relationship Last

By | Committment, Communication, Creating More Passion in Marriage, Intimacy, Love, Love advice, Love Languages, Marriage, Marriage Advice, Relationships, Romance, Sexy, Successful Marriages | One Comment

Falling in love is great.  All the feel good hormones are flowing and there is a state of euphoria that can last for months and for some couples even a little longer than that.  However, eventually, you discover their flaws and rediscover yours especially with the help of a complaining spouse.  Falling in love takes having hormones; staying in love requires emotional fortitude, deeper vision, patience and a developing ability to let go of the negative to make room for…

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Great Communication = Hot Sex

By | Communication, Creating More Passion in Marriage, Great Sex, Intimacy, Long Hot Marriage, Love, Love advice, Love Languages, Marriage, Marriage Advice, Romance, Sex, Sexy | No Comments

Verbal and nonverbal communication is a portal for hot sex. That may sound like a bold statement but it is true. As a marriage and sex therapist with many years of helping couples rekindle passion, healthy communication is the missing link for hot sex. We have not learned how to communicate effectively when in emotional pain because we never saw our parents do it. This leads to a disconnect between the partners. Women all around the world seem to agree…

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More on the Five Love Languages

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In his book, The Five Love Languages, Dr. Gary Chapman lists 5 main love languages. They are: 1) Words of Affirmation 2) Quality Time 3) Gifts 4) Acts of Service 5) Touch In my 30 year history of seeing couples in my practice, I can see how different partners feel loved by one of these 5 love languages and seldom do partners have the same language. How do you know what love language you speak and how you need to…

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The Five Love Languages

By | Creating More Passion in Marriage, Love Languages, Marriage Advice, Relationships, Successful Marriages, The 5 Love Languages, Todd's Thursday thought for relationship bliss | No Comments

As a marriage and sex therapist for over 30 years, I get excited when I discover hope for couples who have lost their way.    As I have written in my book. The Long Hot Marriage, I am more optimistic than ever about couples creating aliveness and passion in their long term relationships.  Now I have another reason to be optimistic.  Many of my clients kept telling me about Dr. Gary Chapman’s book, “The Five Love Languages,” and so finally…

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