The Orlando Shooting and Our Emotional Evolution

The Orlando Shooting and Our Emotional “Evolution”

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ABOVE: People gather for a candlelight vigil during a memorial service for the victims of the shooting at the Pulse gay nightclub in Orlando, Florida, June 13, 2016. (Photo: Jim Young/Reuters) The Importance of Obliterating Binary Thinking The tragedy in Orlando has affected so many people across the globe.  Both of my daughters are currently out of the country- (one in China and one in Europe) and not only are they deeply affected but as they tell me-people in other…

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3 Daily Rituals that will Keep the Passion in Your Marriage

3 Daily Rituals that will Keep the Passion in Your Marriage

By | Committment, Communication, Creating More Passion in Marriage, Intimacy, Long Hot Marriage, Love, Marriage, Marriage Advice, Passion, Relationships, Romance | No Comments

Weddings, Bar and Bat Mitzvahs and funerals are rituals that make us slow down and have deeper, more profound life experiences. These rituals help us celebrate the good times and deal and heal from the bad times.  In marriage, we also need rituals to deal with the good and bad times and these rituals will keep as well as increase the passion and aliveness in your intimate relationship.  The rituals I am about to discuss are best done on a…

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The Humorous side of relationships

The Humorous Side of Relationship Problems

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Relationships can be challenging and painful at times and this month I have been writing about the serious topic of infidelity.  So for the 5th Thursday in March, how about a little humor! “Someone told me the delightful story of the crusader who put a chastity belt on his wife and gave the key to his best friend for safekeeping, in case of his death. He had ridden only a few miles away when his friend, riding hard, caught up…

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The # 1 Way To Prevent Infidelity

The # 1 Way To Prevent Infidelity

By | Committment, Infidelity, Intimacy, Love, Marital Advice, Marital Problems, Marriage Advice, Marriage Problems | No Comments

I have written and talked much about the many factors that can contribute to infidelity.  However, there is one way to prevent infidelity that trumps all others.  OPEN AND COURAGEOUS COMMUNICATION.    The biggest problem with interpersonal relationships is that we suppress, hold back and hide our feelings, preferences and desires that we think may provoke the other person or “get us in trouble.”   By observing my clients, I have discovered that conflict avoidance is one of the more common antecedents…

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The Perfect (Offbeat) Date For Your Mate

The Perfect (Offbeat) Date For Your Mate

By | Committment, Communication, Intimacy, Long Hot Marriage, Love, Love advice, Marital Advice, Marriage, Marriage Advice, Passion, Relationships, Romance, Successful Marriages | No Comments

I hope that you find much of my writing thought provoking and profound. This article is not about being profound; it is what I hope it creatively pragmatic and suggestive of a few things you can do this week with your beloved! But hopefully a little different than the typical (which is perfectly ok) dinner with a movie experience. I hope you find one of these ideas perfect for you and your partner. Or maybe with a modification you can…

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Does your relationship need more romanc

Does Your Relationship Need More Romance? You’re Just 30 Seconds Away!

By | Committment, Intimacy, Long Hot Marriage, Love, Love advice, Marital Advice, Marriage Advice, Relationships, Sex | No Comments

Nothing is done without thinking about it first.  If you often have the thought/question- “What can I do for my partner that will make him/her smile,” then you might want to skip the rest of this short article.  But for the rest of you, here is my suggestion.  Have your phone notify you that it is time to spend 30 seconds thinking about what you can do for your partner today to uplift his or her energy.  When would that…

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What a 31 Year Marriage has Taught Me About Romance

What a 31 Year Marriage has Taught Me About Romance

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I have been married 31 and a half years to the day. I just calculated that to be 11,504 days, 276,096 hours and 16,565,760 minutes. OMG- I do not know if I should have done that; I feel a little older than before I took out my iPhone calculator. The point of this is that with all that time that has gone by, I have learned a thing or two about romance even though I am sure that there is…

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Todd’s Secrets for A Sexy Relationship

By | Creating More Passion in Marriage, Great Sex, Healing, Long Hot Marriage, Love, Love advice, Marital Advice, Marital Problems, Marriage, Marriage Advice, Marriage Problems, Passion, Relationships, Sex, Sexy | No Comments

We’ve all been there. After the HOT beginnings of a relationship, things tend to simmer down, and eventually cool off. It’s totally natural but not unpreventable. If you want a little more sizzle, and less fizzle, watch these 5 easy ways to spark up your love life with your beloved. You can start making your relationship better, tonight!

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How To Recognize Intimacy Issues in Marriage

How To Recognize Intimacy Issues in Marriage

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Intimacy is about feeling close to your partner, especially after the courting period.  The courting period is a time when you feel close but you actually merge with your partner and forgot your individuality for a while.  As you rediscover your individuality, you tend to fall out of love (temporarily hopefully) and now have an opportunity to get to know yourself as an individual in a committed relationship and to get to know your partner as an individual in a…

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Time To Celebrate your Relationship and Open Up to Love

It’s Time To Celebrate your Relationship and Open Up to Love

By | Holidays, Love, Marriage Advice, Relationships, Successful Marriages | No Comments

CELEBRATE!  One of my favorite words.  The Merriam-Webster definition of ‘celebrate’ is: to do something special or enjoyable for an important event, occasion, holiday, etc. to praise (someone or something) : to say that (someone or something) is great or important This is the season that is most marked by celebration; many of the world’s religions have holidays to celebrate and of course we had Thanksgiving at the end of November and December ends with the celebration of the welcoming…

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