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In the Heat of The Moment

In the Heat of The Moment

By | Communication, Conflict Resolution, Long Hot Marriage, Marital Advice | No Comments

5 Tips to Quickly Recover From an Escalating Argument with Your Partner I confess.  I am in the heat of the moment right now with my spouse!  That’s right, right now. I am about to write what I am about to do or do what I am about to write; not sure what will come first.  Just about every couple gets into this kind of downward spiral funk where each wants to be heard and each is reacting. Here is…

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3 ways to divorce proof your marriage

[VIDEO] 3 Ways to Divorce Proof Your Marriage

By | Communication, Divorce, Great Sex, Healthy Marriage, Long Hot Marriage | No Comments

Watch my video below where I share the 3 ways to divorce proof your marriage. With divorce rates skyrocketing, infidelity running rampant and communication at an all-time low, don't you think it is wise to start thinking about what it takes to divorce proof your marriage? In this video, I share my top 3 ways to divorce proof your marriage and they are so easy you can start changing your relationship today. You'll learn: Why and how to look at your partner...

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Relationship Mastery- Increasing Self-Love

Relationship Mastery: Increasing Self-Love

By | Communication, Intimacy, Long Hot Marriage, Love, Marriage Advice, Relationships, Sex | No Comments

Love is circulation.  The more we give it, the more we receive it; the more we receive it, the more we give it.   Co-dependency is not love because co-dependency is giving to others with the habit of sacrificing yourself.  This giving cannot be sustained because the co-dependent person burns out, grows in resentment and ultimately can hate.  This happens because the codependent person is closed off to self-love. Self-love requires accessing your needs and wants; your true self- the…

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Relationship Mastery connection

Relationship Mastery: Have the Connection You Long For

By | Great Sex, Healthy Marriage, Intimacy, Long Hot Marriage, Marital Advice, Marriage Advice, Relationships, Sex | No Comments

In one month, I will launch a brand new online program…Relationship Mastery: Have the Connection You Long For. The main theme of this 3-month program is that you have the resources, ability and creative power to build a loving, pleasurable and passionate relationship with your partner- whether it is your current partner or your partner of the future.  This month I will be discussing different aspects of relationship mastery such as: Removing Blocks to Love Increasing your love for yourself…

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The number one thing holding you back from romance

The Number One Thing Holding You Back From Romance

By | Creating More Passion in Marriage, Long Hot Marriage, Romance | No Comments

I am wrapping up my series on romance and I  wanted to share with you one last thought on romance. It is the number one thing that is holding you back from romance in your intimate relationship. Watch the video below and learn... Why I think that connecting with your partner is so very important and the number one thing that is preventing you from being able to make this connection. Leave me a comment and let me know what...

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Gratefulness Can Make you Healthy, Wealthy and Sexy

Gratefulness Can Make you Healthy, Wealthy and Sexy

By | Commitment, Gratitude, Healing, Intimacy, Long Hot Marriage, Marital Advice | No Comments

So, the number one self-healing thing I do is not healthy eating and not exercise.  It is practicing being grateful.  I even am practicing gratefulness right now as I sit having just watched my team; the LA Dodgers lose in the 7th game of a World Series.  Now that takes some doing!  Why is being grateful so important? Feeling grateful leads to your blood vessels dilating, your cortisol lowering, and your muscles relaxing.  A grateful person feels safe and a…

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Honoring Your Fantasies and Your Committed Relationship

Honoring Your Fantasies and Your Committed Relationship

By | Creating More Passion in Marriage, Healthy Marriage, Long Hot Marriage, Love advice, Marriage Advice, Passion, Romance, Sensuality, Sex, Sexual Desire | No Comments

I am a marriage and sex therapist.  We all have fantasies…that’s a normal part of being human.  Today’s article is all about honoring your fantasies and your committed relationship…yes, that’s possible so please read on. In my practice and in society in general I see far to many people are getting divorced and too many people are being unfaithful.   My main purposes in life besides helping couples heal is to help prevent these problems. The reasons for these problems are multiple and…

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Creating a Passionate Marriage

Creating a Passionate Marriage

By | Communication, Intimacy, Long Hot Marriage, Sexual Dysfunction | No Comments

I love writing about this stuff! I just celebrated with my wife our 33rd wedding anniversary this past Saturday and I enjoy the creative process of keeping things alive and fresh in my own marriage.   Yes, passionate marriages are created; created by paying attention to each other, courageously communicating and doing new things and also keeping yourself interesting.   The only way to keep yourself interesting is to lean beyond your edge.   Your edge (as David Deida says…

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Why People Cheat- Another Look at Infidelity

Why People Cheat- Another Look at Infidelity

By | Commitment, Communication, Family Relationships, Infidelity, Intimacy, Long Hot Marriage | No Comments

As a professor and psychotherapist, I have learned some things about early childhood development.  Infants and young children do not have the brain apparatus to regulate their emotions so they utilize their caretaker’s brains basically to do the regulation.  For example, the attuned mother can calm an anxious baby with touch or food or changing a wet diaper.  This is called down-regulation meaning that the mother in these examples helps the child go from a more stressed, inflamed state to…

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When a Man Has Low Sexual Desire

When a Man Has Low Sexual Desire: Causes and Solutions

By | Attraction, Long Hot Marriage, Low sexual desire, Marital Advice, Masculinity, Sex, Sexual abuse, Sexy Marriage | No Comments

In my practice, a good proportion of my clients with low sexual desire are men.  This is particularly challenging because men have grown up with the myth that they should always have sexual desire and be ready to pounce on one’s partner at any time.  If that is not the case, it saps the self-esteem of the man and can even preoccupy his thinking. The truth is that men are not machines and there are many factors that could cause…

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