Genetic Causes of Infidelity

Genetic Causes of Infidelity (and Gingivitis)

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As a professor, I have been discussing the role that hormones and neurochemistry play in attraction, bonding and sexuality in my Human Sexuality class.  Brendon Zietsch, a psychologist in the University of Queensland in Australia says: “Women who carry certain variants of the vasopressin receptor gene are much more likely to engage in “extra pair bonding,” the scientific euphemism for sexual infidelity.”  There are many studies that confirm that oxytocin and vasopressin (hormones) are linked to partner bonding, which are…

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Relationships that Survived and Thrived After Infidelity

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If you or someone you know has caught a partner cheating, it can be devastating. You are probably wondering if I can ever trust him or her again. What If I told you it is possible for your relationship survive and even thrive after infidelity? Watch this video and hear the stories of 2 relationships that survived and thrived after infidelity. You too can have a happy ending! Need Help? Contact Todd Creager 16052 Beach Blvd. Suite 214, Huntington Beach,...

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How Cheating Cheats the Cheater

By | Communication, Dysfunctional Family, Infidelity, Intimacy, Long Hot Marriage, Love, Love advice, Marital Advice, Marital Problems, Marriage, Marriage Advice, Marriage Problems, Parenting, Relationships | One Comment

When infidelity happens, we think if it as the person who had the affair cheated ON his or her partner. And of course that is true! However, I can show you how the cheater cheats him or herself. But firstly, ask yourself if you know someone who cheated who did not make his or her life worse on some level. Or maybe you might have cheated in the past- did you lose out on that choice you made. I would…

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Ashley Madison and Your Marriage

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“Life is short. Have an affair.” This is the motto of the Ashley Madison site; a site where married partners can supposedly meet other married people discreetly and have an affair.   Of course, as we have learned in the news, due to hacking as well as pure technology, there is less discreteness than some of the consumers of the site have hoped for.  I have had more than one female client of mine in recent weeks let me know…

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Five Rules of Fidelity

By | Communication, Creating More Passion in Marriage, Infidelity, Intimacy, Long Hot Marriage, Love, Love advice, Marital Advice, Marriage, Marriage Advice, Relationships, Sex, Toxic Relationships | No Comments

I talk a lot about how to heal from infidelity and I have helped a lot of couples thrive after this interpersonal crisis.  Having said that, being faithful to your spouse or committed partner has many advantages.  These advantages include  No guilt or anxiety about secrets  It is easier to feel closer to your mate  You can focus on creating a phenomenal intimate life with your partner as you “grow up” together with no exits such as extramarital relationships. So…

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Why Women Cheat

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I’ve been helping couples survive and thrive after infidelity for 30+ years in my practice. Over the years I have noticed that there is a difference between why women cheat and why men cheat.  Watch the video below where I explain the three reasons why women cheat. I have one piece of advice for women:  don’t be afraid to communicate with your partner and tell him what you need.  Looking for more resources on infidelity?  Check out my infidelity resource…

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Toxic Relationship: Couple Quarreling

Facebook and Infidelity

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I have come across several studies that say about 1 in 5 people flirt using Facebook.  My practice is filled with couples that called me due to infidelity that started with social media.  I love social media myself.  It is good for my business and it is fun for personal reasons.   But it can be dangerous.  It can be dangerous because: It is so easily accessible. There are people from our past that we can easily find since so many…

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3 Feelings Couples Experience in a Successful Relationship

By | Committment, Communication, Creating More Passion in Marriage, Great Sex, Healing, Infidelity, Intimacy, Long Hot Marriage, Love, Love advice, Marital Advice, Marital Problems, Marriage, Marriage Advice, Marriage Problems, Relationships, Romance, Sex, Sexy, Success Advice, Successful Marriages | One Comment

We have a whole range of feelings that we experience throughout our days as well as with our partner. However, there are three feelings I can think of that happy couples feel a lot. The first one I will mention is courage. Actually courage is an essential feeling to get us to take the action necessary to create a happy, vibrant relationship. With courage, you try new things with your partner in and out of the bedroom. With courage, you…

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3 Questions to Ask Yourself if You’re in a Toxic Relationship (and TODAY’S free teleseminar info below)

By | Dysfunctional Family, Infidelity, Marital Advice, Marital Problems, Marriage, Marriage Advice, Marriage Problems, Relationships, Toxic Relationships | 2 Comments

If you find yourself feeling consistent pain in your relationship, you need to investigate where the pain comes from. Does it come from your past and you are being triggered?  Is your partner mistreating you, controlling you, abusing you or neglecting you?  What do you need to take responsibility for and what responsibility do you need to punt over to your partner?  Some partners who are in unhealthy toxic relationships take the blame way too quickly and make excuses for…

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Is Watching Porn in a Relationship Really Considered Cheating?

By | Infidelity, Intimacy, Love advice, Marital Advice, Marital Problems, Marriage, Pornography, Toxic Relationships | 10 Comments

Cheating involves putting intimate energy into another person. Being physically present with someone outside of the committed relationship is one way of putting intimate energy into another whether it is emotional or physical intimacy ( or both). Also, texting, emailing, phoning, chatting on the web and soliciting on the web with live people are all ways of interacting with others that betray the committed relationship. A secret is always involved when it comes to cheating. Porn often is done in…

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