Infidelity is an Interpersonal Crime!

Infidelity is an Interpersonal Crime!

By | Commitment, Communication, Infidelity, Intimacy, Love, Marital Advice, Marital Problems, Marriage Advice, Marriage Problems, Relationships, Sex, Toxic Relationships | 3 Comments

One of the more common things I do is help couples who have experienced infidelity survive and even thrive.  As I have said before, the great majority of these couples are successful in treatment.  However, I am clear on one thing- cheating and all the secrecy and deception that goes with it steals from the betrayed partner.  It steals a very important right- the right to have information in order to make a good decision.  You cannot make a good…

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The # 1 Way To Prevent Infidelity

The # 1 Way To Prevent Infidelity

By | Committment, Infidelity, Intimacy, Love, Marital Advice, Marital Problems, Marriage Advice, Marriage Problems | No Comments

I have written and talked much about the many factors that can contribute to infidelity.  However, there is one way to prevent infidelity that trumps all others.  OPEN AND COURAGEOUS COMMUNICATION.    The biggest problem with interpersonal relationships is that we suppress, hold back and hide our feelings, preferences and desires that we think may provoke the other person or “get us in trouble.”   By observing my clients, I have discovered that conflict avoidance is one of the more common antecedents…

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Why There is So Much Infidelity?

Why There is So Much Infidelity?

By | Committment, Infidelity, Intimacy, Love advice, Marital Advice, Marital Problems, Marriage Advice, Marriage Problems, Relationships, Romance | No Comments

Infidelity is very common and a good portion of my practice consists of people coming to see me after discovering there has been an extramarital relationship.  The question is why?  I am going to give my best partial answer, partial because it is such a big question and I as well as other experts in the field can write volumes on this question.  However, for the purpose of this brief writing, I will list these 5 IMPORTANT reasons: 1)   It…

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5 Ways Cheating Cheats the Cheater

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You might be surprised to hear it but the betrayed partner isn’t the only person who is hurt by infidelity. The cheater is actually in a lot of pain too. I’ve seen this over and over again in my practice helping hundreds of couples dealing with the aftermath of infidelity. The partner who cheats is likely suffering from both guilt and low esteem. Watch this short video where I talk about 5 most common ways  cheating robs the cheater of…

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Genetic Causes of Infidelity

Genetic Causes of Infidelity (and Gingivitis)

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As a professor, I have been discussing the role that hormones and neurochemistry play in attraction, bonding and sexuality in my Human Sexuality class.  Brendon Zietsch, a psychologist in the University of Queensland in Australia says: “Women who carry certain variants of the vasopressin receptor gene are much more likely to engage in “extra pair bonding,” the scientific euphemism for sexual infidelity.”  There are many studies that confirm that oxytocin and vasopressin (hormones) are linked to partner bonding, which are…

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Relationships that Survived and Thrived After Infidelity

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If you or someone you know has caught a partner cheating, it can be devastating. You are probably wondering if I can ever trust him or her again. What If I told you it is possible for your relationship survive and even thrive after infidelity? Watch this video and hear the stories of 2 relationships that survived and thrived after infidelity. You too can have a happy ending! Need Help? Contact Todd Creager 16052 Beach Blvd. Suite 214, Huntington Beach,...

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How Cheating Cheats the Cheater

By | Communication, Dysfunctional Family, Infidelity, Intimacy, Long Hot Marriage, Love, Love advice, Marital Advice, Marital Problems, Marriage, Marriage Advice, Marriage Problems, Parenting, Relationships | One Comment

When infidelity happens, we think if it as the person who had the affair cheated ON his or her partner. And of course that is true! However, I can show you how the cheater cheats him or herself. But firstly, ask yourself if you know someone who cheated who did not make his or her life worse on some level. Or maybe you might have cheated in the past- did you lose out on that choice you made. I would…

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Ashley Madison and Your Marriage

By | Communication, Infidelity, Marital Advice, Marital Problems, Marriage, Marriage Advice, Marriage Problems, Relationships, Sex, Toxic Relationships | No Comments

“Life is short. Have an affair.” This is the motto of the Ashley Madison site; a site where married partners can supposedly meet other married people discreetly and have an affair.   Of course, as we have learned in the news, due to hacking as well as pure technology, there is less discreteness than some of the consumers of the site have hoped for.  I have had more than one female client of mine in recent weeks let me know…

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Five Rules of Fidelity

By | Communication, Creating More Passion in Marriage, Infidelity, Intimacy, Long Hot Marriage, Love, Love advice, Marital Advice, Marriage, Marriage Advice, Relationships, Sex, Toxic Relationships | No Comments

I talk a lot about how to heal from infidelity and I have helped a lot of couples thrive after this interpersonal crisis.  Having said that, being faithful to your spouse or committed partner has many advantages.  These advantages include  No guilt or anxiety about secrets  It is easier to feel closer to your mate  You can focus on creating a phenomenal intimate life with your partner as you “grow up” together with no exits such as extramarital relationships. So…

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Why Women Cheat

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I’ve been helping couples survive and thrive after infidelity for 30+ years in my practice. Over the years I have noticed that there is a difference between why women cheat and why men cheat.  Watch the video below where I explain the three reasons why women cheat. I have one piece of advice for women:  don’t be afraid to communicate with your partner and tell him what you need.  Looking for more resources on infidelity?  Check out my infidelity resource…

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