Why People Cheat- Another Look at Infidelity

Why People Cheat- Another Look at Infidelity

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As a professor and psychotherapist, I have learned some things about early childhood development.  Infants and young children do not have the brain apparatus to regulate their emotions so they utilize their caretaker’s brains basically to do the regulation.  For example, the attuned mother can calm an anxious baby with touch or food or changing a wet diaper.  This is called down-regulation meaning that the mother in these examples helps the child go from a more stressed, inflamed state to…

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Adult Children of Alcoholics

Adult Children of Alcoholics: 10 Keys to Go From Dysfunctional Family to Thriving

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I am writing today about adults who grew up with one or more alcoholic parents. Growing up in a family like this means usually that you grew up in either some kind of chaos or neglect or both.  Since that was the family you grew up in, it may feel “normal’” and it may at first be hard to notice the effects.  However, here are just some of the possible effects of living in an alcoholic home: You are very…

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My Siblings and I Never Talk_7 Tips to Heal and Deal

My Siblings and I Never Talk: 7 Tips to Heal and Deal

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Is your family close? Do you have at least one sibling that you communicate with on a regular basis? If you do, that is wonderful because having good relations with your family can cushion you against the stresses of life as well as help you rejoice in the good times. Being with family members who celebrate holidays together, get together consistently and are there for emotional support has been shown to increase emotional and physical wellbeing. However, what if that…

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How To Stop Your Family From Pulling Your Chains

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How to not let family members or anyone for that matter pull your chains Your family doesn’t have to yank your chains during the holidays or anytime you get together for that matter.   Watch this short video where Todd shows you how to keep those happy feelings even when someone says something that pushes your buttons. Here’s to keeping your family celebrations happy!    

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Diffuse Conflict Quickly

Diffuse Conflict Quickly

By | Commitment, Conflict Resolution, Family Relationships, Harmony, Intimacy, Long Hot Marriage, Love, Marital Advice, Marriage Advice, Peace, Relationships | No Comments

A Powerful Tool to Go From Conflict to Peace I want to discuss with you one of the most powerful tools I know that can de-escalate conflict.  This tool can be used with your intimate partner as well as in any relationship.  It is particularly useful at this time of the year when underlying conflicts seem to come to the surface.  (I am already seeing it in the phone calls I am getting since last week and continuing this week)….

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Communicating with Your Child About Sex

Communicating with Your Child About Sex

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This month I will be talking about communication and sex, and for the first blog, I want to write about how to communicate with your child about sex. Here are 5 tips for healthy communication with your child about sex. 1) Do it! That’s right; the biggest problem with parents is that they avoid the conversation. Of course that means you need to do an inventory of yourself and your own attitudes about sex and how sex was communicated to…

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Hot Monogamy- 3 Surefire Ways to Spark Your Relationship

Hot Monogamy – 3 Surefire Ways to Spark Your Relationship

By | Commitment, Creating More Passion in Marriage, Family Relationships, Great Sex, Long Hot Marriage, Marital Advice, Marriage Advice, Passion, Relationships, Romance, Sexy | No Comments

When I wrote my book, “The Long Hot Marriage,” my brother exclaimed- “Oh, you wrote a fairy tale!”  It was a funny line but let me tell you something- The Long Hot Marriage is no fairy tale!  Hot monogamy is a reality and here are 3 ways to make sure you experience this wonderful gift of a long, passionate relationship: 1)   Dare to leave your comfort zone often.  Your ancestors basically did not do this with their partners.  Take a…

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Don’t Spoil Your Child; Spoil Your Spouse

Don’t Spoil Your Child; Spoil Your Spouse! (The best gift you can give your children)

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I hear it all the time!  What does my partner expect of me?  I am exhausted after taking my children to their various classes and sport activities, and then I have to make dinner and after dinner, I have to get them to bed.  By that time- I am exhausted and my spouse is mad at me for not having energy for him (or her). What do we do when we need to make sure that we have enough money…

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How to overcome your dysfunctional family

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Think you might have a dysfunctional family or wondering how to overcome yours? In this video Todd shares how to recognize if your family is dysfunctional.  And he shares some insightful tips that will help you change your self sabotaging behaviors. So grab a piece of paper, watch this short video, jot down a few notes then practice what Todd tells you to do and free yourself from your dysfunctional family. Not 100% sure you have a dysfunctional family? I…

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Create a New Positive Family Legacy

By | Communication, Counseling, Dysfunctional Family, Family Relationships, Holidays, Marital Advice, Marital Problems, Marriage, Marriage Advice, Marriage Problems, Mind/Body Health, Parenting, Relationships, Toxic Relationships, Videos | No Comments

Family! Ever find your parents’ voice coming out of your mouth? Do you find yourself recreating the same patterns with your partner or children? Are you longing to have a different relationship with your family?  Sometimes, it seems that nothing will ever change. But, you have the ability to change EVERYTHING. By making a few adjustments in how YOU deal with your past, you will liberate your family to a new way of being! Watch this video for a quick, powerful list of 5…

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