My Personal Family Story

My Personal Family Story

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My Personal Family Story Transforming Myself, Transforming My Family I was the people pleaser; the one who always tried to be nice.   My family was close.  I have an older brother, 14 years older and a younger sister 3 and a half years younger; all of the same biological parents.   I grew up and eventually got married in my mid 20’s.   Over the course of our marriage, my wife and I spend a lot of time with my...

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Breaking the Shackles of a Dysfunctional Family

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How a Couple Rewrote their Stories to have a Thriving Relationship She came from a family where her father left when she was 5.   She was the oldest of three siblings.  Her mother was mostly in a state of overwhelm and she became the “responsible” child.  Her mother remarried and she grew close to him.  However, he passed away when she was 14 and it was devastating to her. She continued being in the role of the responsible child....

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Dysfunctional Families

Dysfunctional Families: How To Deal with Scapegoating and Projection

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Scapegoating and projection are very common scenarios in dysfunctional families. Just what is scapegoating and projection? It happens when members of your family don't own their own stuff and project it on other family...maybe you!  You know the feeling...you get together for a big family gathering and you don't end up enjoying yourself because of someone in your family? In this video Todd covers the signs of scapegoating, a story of how scapegoating and projection affected him personally. Watch the...

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Growing Up In a Dysfunctional Family

Growing Up In a Dysfunctional Family: 5 Possible Roles You May have Inherited

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In a dysfunctional family, one or more of the parents or siblings had some issues that they did not deal with in healthy ways.  Instead, the rest of the family had to adapt to survive and make sense of the family.  If you came from a dysfunctional family, then neither you nor any of your family members could escape this adaptation. This adaptation can be thought of as a role.  As you know from a job role, it is limited….

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Adult Children of Alcoholics

Adult Children of Alcoholics: 10 Keys to Go From Dysfunctional Family to Thriving

By | Adult Children of Alcoholics, Communication, Dysfunctional Family, Family Problems, Family Relationships, Family Therapy | No Comments

I am writing today about adults who grew up with one or more alcoholic parents. Growing up in a family like this means usually that you grew up in either some kind of chaos or neglect or both.  Since that was the family you grew up in, it may feel “normal’” and it may at first be hard to notice the effects.  However, here are just some of the possible effects of living in an alcoholic home: You are very…

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My Siblings and I Never Talk_7 Tips to Heal and Deal

My Siblings and I Never Talk: 7 Tips to Heal and Deal

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Is your family close? Do you have at least one sibling that you communicate with on a regular basis? If you do, that is wonderful because having good relations with your family can cushion you against the stresses of life as well as help you rejoice in the good times. Being with family members who celebrate holidays together, get together consistently and are there for emotional support has been shown to increase emotional and physical wellbeing. However, what if that…

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