How to create more romance in your relationship

Create More Romance: How to get the sexy back in your relationship

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In this video I''ll show you how easy it is to create more romance and sex in your relationship.   I cover how to get the sexy back into your intimate relationship when you've gone beyond the lust and romantic stages.   The good news is that you can have it all... that comfortable, loving side PLUS the exciting lust & romantically driven side all at once.   It just takes a little planning let me show you how simple it...

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The Link Between Gratitude and Your Sex Life

The Link Between Gratitude and Your Sex Life

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What you focus on may determine the quality of your sex life. I want to talk about this from 3 angles: 1) How gratitude affects your sense of psychological well being, 2) How gratitude affects the wellbeing of your partner and 3) how gratitude affects your brain. Then I can do the easy job of linking all that to your sex life. It has been clearly established in the field of mental health that what we think affects how we…

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Importance of Playfulness in Your Relationships

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I want to talk to you about the importance of being playful in your intimate relationships Remember back when you began your courtship?  I’ll bet you were more playful, romantic and maybe a bit silly…am I right? Then you became committed and maybe got married, bought a house and/or had kids…right? At some point you became functional and lost the element of surprise and delight in your relationship. We all need to get back the playfulness in our relationships.  In…

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[VIDEO] How Great Communication Leads to Great Sex

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It's a fact...great communication leads to great sex. This is true for BOTH men and women. Being able to express yourself in your relationship is the biggest aphrodisiac of all. Watch this short video where I talk about how communicating with intensity correctly will jump-start the passion in your intimate relationship Not only do I give you tips on how to communicate with intensity... I share more proven communication tips that will have your partner looking at you in a...

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Hot Monogamy- 3 Surefire Ways to Spark Your Relationship

Hot Monogamy – 3 Surefire Ways to Spark Your Relationship

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When I wrote my book, “The Long Hot Marriage,” my brother exclaimed- “Oh, you wrote a fairy tale!”  It was a funny line but let me tell you something- The Long Hot Marriage is no fairy tale!  Hot monogamy is a reality and here are 3 ways to make sure you experience this wonderful gift of a long, passionate relationship: 1)   Dare to leave your comfort zone often.  Your ancestors basically did not do this with their partners.  Take a…

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3 Daily Rituals that will Keep the Passion in Your Marriage

3 Daily Rituals that will Keep the Passion in Your Marriage

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Weddings, Bar and Bat Mitzvahs and funerals are rituals that make us slow down and have deeper, more profound life experiences. These rituals help us celebrate the good times and deal and heal from the bad times.  In marriage, we also need rituals to deal with the good and bad times and these rituals will keep as well as increase the passion and aliveness in your intimate relationship.  The rituals I am about to discuss are best done on a…

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Todd’s Secrets for A Sexy Relationship

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We’ve all been there. After the HOT beginnings of a relationship, things tend to simmer down, and eventually cool off. It’s totally natural but not unpreventable. If you want a little more sizzle, and less fizzle, watch these 5 easy ways to spark up your love life with your beloved. You can start making your relationship better, tonight!

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Relationship Toolkit Part 2 – Romance

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We all have muscles but going to the gym works out those muscles and the muscles can increase in size and strength.  Likewise, we all are romantic, yes- even you engineers! and you need to work out your romantic muscles.  Here is the way to start working out your romantic muscles – Find out what thrills your partner’s soul.  What will make your partner thrilled if you said or did some particular thing?   Is it writing a heartfelt poem, initiating…

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The Five Love Languages

Relationship Toolkit Part 1- The 5 Love Languages

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One thing I have heard hundreds if not thousands of times is the statement,” No matter how much I give to my partner, it is never enough.”  Here is the truth- we give to our partner the way we want our partner to give to us. The problem with that is what your partner needs to FEEL LOVED is different than what YOU need to feel loved.  I write about that in my book, “The Long Hot Marriage.”  Gary Chapman…

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Five Rules of Fidelity

By | Communication, Creating More Passion in Marriage, Infidelity, Intimacy, Long Hot Marriage, Love, Love advice, Marital Advice, Marriage, Marriage Advice, Relationships, Sex, Toxic Relationships | No Comments

I talk a lot about how to heal from infidelity and I have helped a lot of couples thrive after this interpersonal crisis.  Having said that, being faithful to your spouse or committed partner has many advantages.  These advantages include  No guilt or anxiety about secrets  It is easier to feel closer to your mate  You can focus on creating a phenomenal intimate life with your partner as you “grow up” together with no exits such as extramarital relationships. So…

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