Sex in the Older Years

By | Communication, Coping, Counseling, Creating More Passion in Marriage, Great Sex, Intimacy, Long Hot Marriage, Love, Love advice, Marital Advice, Marital Problems, Marriage, Marriage Advice, Mind/Body Health, Sex, Todd’s Thursday Thought | 3 Comments

If we take good care of ourselves, our sexual system can outlast just about every organ system we have. People have the opportunity to enjoy sexual pleasure well into their older years. Couples that have attended to their relationship through the years can enjoy lovemaking based on sexual and emotional maturity, life experiences and a deepening of their intimate relationship. This can all help with some of the following challenges of sexuality in the older years: Women can develop some…

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Improving Sex Lives for Parents with Young Children

By | Committment, Conflict Resolution, Coping, Counseling, Creating More Passion in Marriage, Family Relationships, Great Sex, Intimacy, Long Hot Marriage, Love, Love advice, Marital Advice, Marital Problems, Marriage, Marriage Advice, Marriage Problems, Parenting, Relationships, Sex, Sexy, Successful Marriages, Todd’s Thursday Thought | One Comment

As I continue my month-long theme of Sexuality Through the Years, today’s blog is about parents who have young children.  These parents are usually still in their sexual prime but there bodies might not feel like it, especially the mom!  Lack of sleep as well as constantly paying attention for the safety and welfare of babies and young children can take a bite out of the erotic side of a marriage.  Here are 7 tips that I have used with…

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A Success Story: She Found Love After Leaving A Toxic Relationship

By | Coping, Counseling, Dating, Healing, Love, Love advice, Relationships, Soulmate, Toxic Relationships | One Comment

Here is a 100% true story of a past client who was able to break free of toxic patterns and discovered who and what she could attract and have in her life. As you read, you will see how through her own increased awareness, courage to be alone and raising her standards that achieving her relationships dream was possible. Her name is changed for reasons of confidentiality. Stephanie came to see me after 8 years of being with another therapist….

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How to Porn-Proof Your Marriage

By | Committment, Communication, Conflict Resolution, Coping, Intimacy, Love, Love advice, Marital Problems, Marriage, Marriage Advice, Marriage Problems, Pornography, Successful Marriages, Toxic Relationships | One Comment

My attitudes have changed through time about porn.  I would never say I am “anti-porn” but I would say I am against a porn-centered sexuality for anybody. So, even though I do not take an extreme position on this subject, I like where my heart and mind is going regarding this challenging area of life.  This comes from years of experience with couples as well as my own relationship. I am a sex therapist. I do not believe that we…

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Bickering, Yelling, Withdrawing, Suppressing – Sound Familiar?

By | Conflict Resolution, Coping, Counseling, Dysfunctional Family, Family Relationships, Intimacy, Love, Love advice, Marital Problems, Marriage, Marriage Advice, Successful Marriages | 3 Comments

Ask yourself- are you more of an inflamer or a shutting downer? An inflamer is one who tends to get agitated when upset, raise one’s voice, get anxious, get aggressive, talk faster, etc. For example- the inflamer externalizes his or her upset or anxiety and may put others on the defensive. A shutting downer is someone who tends to withdraw, get quiet, numb oneself with TV or computer, stonewall and/or avoids. He or she internalizes his stress or finds a…

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Coping with a Dysfunctional Family

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As you may have noticed, the theme this month has been dysfunctional families.  At this time of year, many family issues can reemerge or at least you can be more affected than at other times.  If you recall a past blog, I define a dysfunctional family as one on which you are not free to be your spontaneous true self.  When clients come in to see me or Skype with me, they may have lost touch with their “true self.” …

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