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In the Heat of The Moment

In the Heat of The Moment

By | Communication, Conflict Resolution, Long Hot Marriage, Marital Advice | No Comments

5 Tips to Quickly Recover From an Escalating Argument with Your Partner I confess.  I am in the heat of the moment right now with my spouse!  That’s right, right now. I am about to write what I am about to do or do what I am about to write; not sure what will come first.  Just about every couple gets into this kind of downward spiral funk where each wants to be heard and each is reacting. Here is…

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3 ways to divorce proof your marriage

[VIDEO] 3 Ways to Divorce Proof Your Marriage

By | Communication, Divorce, Great Sex, Healthy Marriage, Long Hot Marriage | No Comments

Watch my video below where I share the 3 ways to divorce proof your marriage. With divorce rates skyrocketing, infidelity running rampant and communication at an all-time low, don't you think it is wise to start thinking about what it takes to divorce proof your marriage? In this video, I share my top 3 ways to divorce proof your marriage and they are so easy you can start changing your relationship today. You'll learn: Why and how to look at your partner...

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Infidelity- When Is It Time To Move On?

Infidelity- When Is It Time To Move On?

By | Communication, Divorce, Infidelity | No Comments

5 Scenarios that May Tip the Scale Towards Saying Goodbye Last week, I wrote an article about when it makes sense for the betrayed partner to stay engaged in the relationship after infidelity.   Most of the couples that see me end up not only together but having a deeper and more connected relationship than before the affair. As I have said many times, this is not to say that cheating is a good thing; it is not.  However, with…

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Infidelity- When Does It Make Sense to Stay

Infidelity- When Does It Make Sense to Stay? The Necessary Seven Conditions

By | Commitment, Communication, Healing, Infidelity, Intimacy, Love advice, Marital Problems, Marriage Advice | One Comment

We are hearing about it all the time in the media- politicians, celebrities- infidelity is rampant and is as painful as it is rampant.   Maybe you have experienced it either as one who was betrayed or the one who betrayed. I have many couples each week that I work with on this painful problem and most of the time there is ambivalence on the part of the betrayed partner.  Should I stay or should I go?  This article is discussing…

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Staying connected to your partner

Relationship Mastery: Staying Connected with Your Partner

By | Communication, Marriage Advice, Relationships, Successful Marriages | No Comments

I've recorded a new video for the Relationship Mastery series and it's got great tips on staying connected with your partner. I've been working with couples for 30+ years and I see that they all have one thing in common...An amazing capacity for passionate and nurturing relationships. In this video I discuss the one thing that holds us back from having that relationship with our partner. And I share what successful couples do to have more passion, romance and laughter...

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Relationship Mastery- Increasing Self-Love

Relationship Mastery: Increasing Self-Love

By | Communication, Intimacy, Long Hot Marriage, Love, Marriage Advice, Relationships, Sex | No Comments

Love is circulation.  The more we give it, the more we receive it; the more we receive it, the more we give it.   Co-dependency is not love because co-dependency is giving to others with the habit of sacrificing yourself.  This giving cannot be sustained because the co-dependent person burns out, grows in resentment and ultimately can hate.  This happens because the codependent person is closed off to self-love. Self-love requires accessing your needs and wants; your true self- the…

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3 Essentials To Build Romance and Intimacy

3 Essentials To Build Romance and Intimacy

By | Commitment, Communication, Love advice, Love Languages, Marriage, Passion, Relationships, Romance | No Comments

You are that guy or woman who is romantic.   Do you know how many times I have heard: “Well, I’m just not the romantic type?”   Let’s just say…more than a few (thousand) times.   All those people could not be more wrong!  There is no such thing as a romantic type, especially when you have been with your partner for a while. There are those who are romantic because they naturally do the things that romantic people do…

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The bottom line on healing from infidelity

The Bottom Line when it Comes to Healing From Infidelity

By | Cheating, Commitment, Communication, Infidelity, Intimacy, Marital Problems, Marriage Advice, Relationships | No Comments

Infidelity It can tear at the very fabric of a relationship. I see couples devastated by this every day I am at my office.  And yet, I find that many of these couples find away to heal from the crisis and develop more evolved, more connected and more loving relationships than they had ever had before. I work with some of these couples on a weekly basis; others come for a weekend intensive.   However the couple decides to proceed with…

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Creating a Passionate Marriage

Creating a Passionate Marriage

By | Communication, Intimacy, Long Hot Marriage, Sexual Dysfunction | No Comments

I love writing about this stuff! I just celebrated with my wife our 33rd wedding anniversary this past Saturday and I enjoy the creative process of keeping things alive and fresh in my own marriage.   Yes, passionate marriages are created; created by paying attention to each other, courageously communicating and doing new things and also keeping yourself interesting.   The only way to keep yourself interesting is to lean beyond your edge.   Your edge (as David Deida says…

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The Five Biggest Blocks to Intimacy

The Five Biggest Blocks to Intimacy

By | Communication, Intimacy, Passion, Sex, Sexual Dysfunction, Sexy Marriage | No Comments

Intimacy is about feeling close to your partner.  It is about feeling safe enough to be vulnerable.  It is about having an interpersonal adventure by trying new things together in and out of the bedroom.   In this article, I write about the five main obstacles that prevent many couples from enjoying the deep pleasure of depth and feeling genuinely bonded.   If you have one or more of these obstacles happening in your relationship, just remember that I assist…

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