My Lips Are Sealed (mostly)

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As a marriage therapist, I’ve helped 1000’s of couples in their relationships. While in a session, I provide gentle guidance, give a nudge when needed, or assist in creating better communication and passion. With nearly a quarter century of listening to disputes and issues, you can imagine that I have heard it all. Sometimes, I find myself wishing I could be frank, say what’s really on my mind and give some honest advice. Though I don’t offer my opinion in counseling,…

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Are we over connected?

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I was recently quoted in a article about being over connected on the Fox News site. When you stop to consider the progress we have made as a society to be connected, it is amazing.  But does all of this connectedness make sense? Check out the article and read more at: http://www.foxnews.com/tech/2013/05/16/over-connected-dark-side-to-internet-things/#ixzz2VBLQ05vL

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Todd’s Thursday Thought for Relationship Bliss: Stop Protecting Yourself

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What are the ways you protect yourself from hurt that may limit your capacity to give and receive love from your partner? Make a short list, here’s some things to get you started: Do you avoid affection or touch? Do you avoid eye contact? Do you avoid the challenging conversations? Do you have a hard time being conversationally open? Think about your parents’ relationship and other role models you had growing up. What did you learn about relationships:  What beliefs…

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Todd’s Thursday Thought for Relationship Bliss: Slow Touch

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Make this slow touch weekend… Touch your partner as if she (or he) is the most precious and cherished and treasured person in the world. You want your touch to leave your partner feeling loved, cherished, admired, appreciated, special, significant and beautiful (or handsome). Here’s to getting the love you want!

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Todd’s Thursday Thought: Do something new and different for your mind, body and spirit.

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Self care leads to greater health, wealth and the ability to give and receive love. Do Yoga. (There seems to be a Yoga Center on every corner and most fitness centers have classes as well). Learn to meditate. Do a new and fun kind of exercise or workout. Start a hobby you have been thinking about doing. Life is an adventure. Be open to it especially in ways that quiet your mind, increase the health of your body and lift…

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Todd’s Thursday Thought for Relationship Bliss: Experience Something New Together

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Find some new experience you could do as a couple this weekend.  Here are three examples to get you thinking about trying something new: Find a social dance class, don’t worry about how good a dancer you are. Go to a karaoke bar and sing a duet together, don’t worry about how good a singer you are. Rent a kayak for two, don’t worry about if you don’t know how to kayak. Whatever you choose to do with your partner…

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Todd’s Thursday Thought for Relationship Bliss: Ask Questions

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Ask some interesting and provocative questions this weekend and get to know your partner in a deeper way.  Here are some examples to help you start asking: “What is something about you that few if any people know about because you are afraid that if they found out, you would be embarrassed? “ “What is a sexual fantasy of yours?” “If you had to live your life over again- what would you do differently or the same?”   There are many…

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Todd’s Thursday Thought for Relationship Bliss: Risk Taking

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The Relationship Between Radical Self-Acceptance, Risk-Taking and a Juicy Relationship Relationships are not for the faint of heart.  As you practice radical self acceptance which is taking the position that you are ok no matter what the reaction of others including your intimate partner, you are free to take more risks. For example: you are free to express what you feel or want, take more initiative, be more vulnerable, try a new sexual approach or show a new side of…

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Todd’s Thursday Thought for Relationship Bliss: Play Catch Part 2

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In the previous article,  I talked about how developing the fine art of playing “catch” with your partner is a skill will benefit your intimate relationship. This week is the second installment in this two part series where we dive deeper and I show you how to successfully initiate the game with your partner. Don’t panic if you disagree with your partner’s point of view or if they are feeling something that you believe is based on a distorted perception. …

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Todd’s Thursday Thought for Relationship Bliss: Play Catch Part 1

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Do you want to stop letting emotional pain come between you and your partner?  Do you want to turn a cold relationship into a hot one? Then learn to play catch!  Do you remember the last time you played catch with someone?  If you threw the ball and the other person caught it, you had a satisfied feeling.  Imagine if the other person just watched the ball hit the ground after you threw it to him.  It would feel very…

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