How to Make Your Spouse Young and Sexy Again

How to Make Your Spouse Young and Sexy Again

By | Intimacy, Romance, Sex, Sexy Marriage | No Comments

Research has shown the power of relationships on one’s health and mental health. Relationships that are nurturing and compassionate lead to the flowing of healthy hormones and bodily chemicals.  On the other hand, I know that I have said far more than once- “Wow, look at that person, he (or she) has had a hard life.”  What makes me say that?  It is usually when I see that someone seems older than his or her years; more wrinkles and just…

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Creating a Passionate Marriage

Creating a Passionate Marriage

By | Communication, Intimacy, Long Hot Marriage, Sexual Dysfunction | No Comments

I love writing about this stuff! I just celebrated with my wife our 33rd wedding anniversary this past Saturday and I enjoy the creative process of keeping things alive and fresh in my own marriage.   Yes, passionate marriages are created; created by paying attention to each other, courageously communicating and doing new things and also keeping yourself interesting.   The only way to keep yourself interesting is to lean beyond your edge.   Your edge (as David Deida says…

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The Five Biggest Blocks to Intimacy

The Five Biggest Blocks to Intimacy

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Intimacy is about feeling close to your partner.  It is about feeling safe enough to be vulnerable.  It is about having an interpersonal adventure by trying new things together in and out of the bedroom.   In this article, I write about the five main obstacles that prevent many couples from enjoying the deep pleasure of depth and feeling genuinely bonded.   If you have one or more of these obstacles happening in your relationship, just remember that I assist…

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The Courage & Safety of Intimacy

By | Healthy Marriage, Intimacy, Love advice, Marital Advice, Relationships, Romance, Sensuality, Sex, Successful Marriages | No Comments

Are you letting fear ruin the possibility of having intimate love? In this video, marriage and sex therapist Todd Creager discusses the courage and safety of intimacy, and learning to give and receive love. He'll show you the 2 critical steps that you need to take in order to create the right environment in your relationship where you can relax and be truly intimate with your partner. "Intimacy is the practice of courage." -Todd Creager I encourage you to be...

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A Successful Couple Who Healed from Sex Addiction

By | Addiction, Fear of Intimacy, Infidelity, Pornography, Sexual Addiction, Sexual Trauma, Trauma | No Comments

Tom and Mary (not their real names) came to me because Mary found Tom’s sent emails to several online “solicitors.” He had not acted on them but he had admitted to checking out Internet prostitution sites over the last three years.  Mary caught him doing porn many times and was angry about how often he seemed to do it and the lack of initiating sex with her.  In our first session, he embarrassingly said that he probably looked at porn…

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Treatment of Sexual Addiction

Treatment of Sexual Addiction

By | Addiction, Infidelity, Pornography, Sexual Addiction, Sexual Trauma, Trauma, Treatment of Sexual Addiction | No Comments

I am going to be using the blog from 2 weeks ago- 5 Possible Causes of Sex Addiction to briefly discuss treatment approaches for this problem depending on the corresponding possible cause. As with many other “diagnoses,” there can be multiple factors that could lead to someone being sexually addicted. Here are five possible causes that I have observed in my clinical work: 1)   There was early sexual, emotional or physical trauma in the addicted person’s early life. Victims of…

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Sex Addiction or High Libido_What is the Difference

Sex Addiction or High Libido: What is the Difference?

By | Infidelity, Libido, Sex, Sex Drive, Sexual Addiction, Sexual Dysfunction | No Comments

I am going to get a little personal here. I like sex; I may be under some illusion but after being married for almost 33 years, my sexual response is about the same as when I was far younger. I like that I like sex and I could say that my wife likes that I like sex as well. One of my main areas of clinical expertise is helping people with low sexual desire, and I have had both men…

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Five Possible Causes of Sexual Addiction

Five Possible Causes of Sexual Addiction

By | Molestation, Pornography, Sexual abuse, Sexual Addiction, Sexual Trauma | No Comments

As with many other “diagnoses,” there can be multiple factors that could lead to someone being sexually addicted.  Here are five possible causes that I have observed in my clinical work: 1)   These was early sexual, emotional or physical trauma in the addicted person’s early life.  Victims of trauma adapt psychologically and neurobiologically to trauma in ways that help the person cope with the overwhelming feelings of trauma but can lead to maladaptive behaviors.  In other words, in the service…

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Why Self Care Is The Number One Thing You Must Do

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If you want to be successful in your life and your relationship(s), then you MUST practice self care. I see a lack of self care as a major factor that is destroying our bodies and our relationships!  Watch this short video where I give my best tips for practicing self care. I want you to pick one thing that I suggest in this video, try it out and let me know how it goes! So tell me what's going to...

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3 Words More Important than I Love You

3 Words More Important than I Love You

By | Communication, Intimacy, Marriage, Marriage Advice, Marriage Problems | 2 Comments

“I love you.”  What could be better than that?  Saying a heartfelt “I love you,” to your intimate partner can bring you both closer and evoke feelings such as warmth and compassion.  However, many people say those three words, and many relationships are still in a heap of trouble.  I have three words for you that if practiced regularly and genuinely will truly transform your relationship and may just be the most direct route to a loving relationship. Communication is…

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