When the Toxic Person in Your Life is That Negative Voice Inside Your Head

When the Toxic Person in Your Life is That Negative Voice Inside Your Head

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I have been writing about toxic relationships and this article is about another type of toxicity, the toxicity you give to yourself. We all have different voices going on inside of our heads and I am not talking about auditory hallucinations. It has to do with the self-talk we engage in throughout the days of our life. Most if not all of us have a critical voice inside of us that is measuring and comparing us with others and judging…

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He Overcame a Toxic Relationship at Work

He Overcame a Toxic Relationship at Work

By | Abuse, Abusive Relationship, Relationships, Toxic Relationships, Toxic Relationships at Work | No Comments

What We All Can Learn from John In my Todd’s Thursday Thought last week, I wrote about toxic relationships at work.  I discussed 3 tips to help you deal with toxic relationships in your work life including going opposite your reflex.  When we go with our reflex, it is usually going to bring us the same bad results we have already had.  It also does not do anything for our wellbeing or growth.   Toxic relationships are unpleasant but they can…

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Toxic Relationships at Work

Toxic Relationships at Work

By | Abuse, Relationships, Toxic Relationships, Toxic Relationships at Work, Work Stress | No Comments

In addition to my focus on couples, I have done some business consulting and have helped business be more profitable by developing healthier relationships at work.  Researchers have consistently shown that there is a connection between good morale, healthy work relationships and productivity.  However, sometimes, just as in personal relationships, you have to deal with a toxic relationship at work.  I have helped many clients in my private practice deal with people at work who are draining their energy, creating…

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5 Tips for Spotting Toxic Relationships by Looking at Ourselves

5 Tips for Spotting Toxic Relationships by Looking at Ourselves

By | Abuse, Abusive Relationship, Domestic Violence, Healing, Healing from Abuse, Relationships | No Comments

Is my relationship toxic? I have been asked this question many times by clients. So, how do you know if your relationship is toxic? Sometimes it is obvious. If your partner is yelling or screaming at you, physically abusing you, calling you names or cursing at you regularly, it is pretty easy to figure out. However, often, it is way subtler than that. When it is subtle, not only is it harder to get out of the toxic relationship but…

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The Humorous side of relationships

The Humorous Side of Relationship Problems

By | Communication, Humor, Infidelity, Intimacy, Long Hot Marriage, Love, Love advice, Marriage, Marriage Jokes | No Comments

Relationships can be challenging and painful at times and this month I have been writing about the serious topic of infidelity.  So for the 5th Thursday in March, how about a little humor! “Someone told me the delightful story of the crusader who put a chastity belt on his wife and gave the key to his best friend for safekeeping, in case of his death. He had ridden only a few miles away when his friend, riding hard, caught up…

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Partners Who Cheat are Not Looking for Another Lover

By | Cheating, Committment, Emotional Infidelity, Infidelity, Intimacy, Long Hot Marriage, Marital Advice, Marital Problems, Monogamy, Relationships, Romance, Successful Marriages | No Comments

Did I just say that? Yes I did! People who cheat really looking for a different self and I explain why in detail in this short video. Watch the video and get a better idea of what people who cheat are looking for.  It will help you to understand why people cheat and see why you shouldn’t take their actions personally. I don’t want to diminish the fact that there is pain involved when affairs happen.   Only when you…

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The # 1 Way To Prevent Infidelity

The # 1 Way To Prevent Infidelity

By | Cheating, Committment, Emotional Infidelity, Infidelity, Intimacy, Love, Marital Advice, Marital Problems, Marriage Advice, Marriage Problems, Monogamy | No Comments

I have written and talked much about the many factors that can contribute to infidelity.  However, there is one way to prevent infidelity that trumps all others.  OPEN AND COURAGEOUS COMMUNICATION.    The biggest problem with interpersonal relationships is that we suppress, hold back and hide our feelings, preferences and desires that we think may provoke the other person or “get us in trouble.”   By observing my clients, I have discovered that conflict avoidance is one of the more common antecedents…

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Why There is So Much Infidelity?

Why There is So Much Infidelity?

By | Audio, Cheating, Committment, Infidelity, Intimacy, Love advice, Marital Advice, Marital Problems, Marriage Advice, Marriage Problems, Relationships, Romance | No Comments

Infidelity is very common and a good portion of my practice consists of people coming to see me after discovering there has been an extramarital relationship.  The question is why?  I am going to give my best partial answer, partial because it is such a big question and I as well as other experts in the field can write volumes on this question.  However, for the purpose of this brief writing, I will list these 5 IMPORTANT reasons: 1)   It…

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5 Ways Cheating Cheats the Cheater

By | Cheating, Committment, Communication, Infidelity, Intimacy, Marriage Advice, Relationships | No Comments

You might be surprised to hear it but the betrayed partner isn’t the only person who is hurt by infidelity. The cheater is actually in a lot of pain too. I’ve seen this over and over again in my practice helping hundreds of couples dealing with the aftermath of infidelity. The partner who cheats is likely suffering from both guilt and low esteem. Watch this short video where I talk about 5 most common ways  cheating robs the cheater of…

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