Female Orgasmic Disorder

Female Orgasmic Disorder

By | Communication, Female Orgasmic Disorder, Love, Low sexual desire, Lust, Orgasm, Passion, Sex, Sexual Trauma | 2 Comments

Yes, this is what it is called in the DSM 5, the most recent reference guide that therapists use to diagnose different types of mental and emotional issues.  However, is it a disorder?  The problem with this kind of language is that it leads to more of a woman feeling inadequate if she has this problem or “disorder.”  The truth is that there are many possible factors whether they are physical, emotional or relational that can contribute to blocks to…

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Dealing with Erection Difficulties in Men

Dealing with Erection Difficulties in Men

By | Arousal Disorder, Erection Problems, Sexual Desire | No Comments

Not unlike the problem of low sexual desire that I discussed in my previous blog, erection problems can be caused by physical, emotional and relationship reasons as well as a combination of these factors. I could tell you the main reasons men have erection issues who come to see me for help. Medical issues such as diabetes or certain medication side effects Low testosterone Performance anxiety This list is in increasing order of frequency of what I see in my…

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4 Common Causes of Low Sexual Desire

By | Great Sex, Low sexual desire, Marriage Problems, Sex, Uncategorized | No Comments

In this short video I talk about low desire and the 4 most common causes I see in my practice. Yes, there is hope and help  - sometimes it is an easy straightforward fix and sometimes it requires a combination of tactics to resolve. Watch the video and find out what the 4 most common causes are.   I've even got a few tips to help you out. Want More Passion? Get Todd's Audio:  Secrets to a Sexy Marriage Free...

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Problems with Low Sexual Desire

Problems with Low Sexual Desire

By | Long Hot Marriage, Low sexual desire, Marital Advice, Marital Problems, Marriage Advice, Relationships, Romance, Sex | No Comments

I have helped many people who have had less libido than they or their partner wanted. My video coming out later this month will discuss this in more detail. I will also be writing an article that goes into relationship dynamics that contribute to sexual desire issues in more detail. There can be a variety of factors that can cause someone to have less sexual interest including: 1) Hormonal influences 2) Medication Side Effects 3) Childhood or adult trauma especially…

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Hot Monogamy- 3 Surefire Ways to Spark Your Relationship

Hot Monogamy – 3 Surefire Ways to Spark Your Relationship

By | Commitment, Creating More Passion in Marriage, Family, Family Relationships, Great Sex, Long Hot Marriage, Marital Advice, Marriage Advice, Monogamy, Passion, Relationships, Romance, Sexy | No Comments

When I wrote my book, “The Long Hot Marriage,” my brother exclaimed- “Oh, you wrote a fairy tale!”  It was a funny line but let me tell you something- The Long Hot Marriage is no fairy tale!  Hot monogamy is a reality and here are 3 ways to make sure you experience this wonderful gift of a long, passionate relationship: 1)   Dare to leave your comfort zone often.  Your ancestors basically did not do this with their partners.  Take a…

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3 Ways Practicing Kindness Leads to Better Sex

3 Ways Practicing Kindness Leads to Better Sex

By | Commitment, Great Sex, Intimacy, Long Hot Marriage, Love, Marital Advice, Marriage Advice, Monogamy, Passion, Relationships, Romance | No Comments

When you read the word “kind”, what sensations or feelings come up for you?  For me, there is a softening of my muscles, and ease in my body.  There is a slowing down of some sort.  For some people in our lives, it may be easy to practice kindness but unfortunately, it is often most difficult with our long-term partner.  It is easy to have automatic resentment or focus on where our partner is NOT meeting our needs.  Or we…

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The Orlando Shooting and Our Emotional Evolution

The Orlando Shooting and Our Emotional “Evolution”

By | Equality, Gender, Gender Issues, LGBT, Love, Orlando tragedy | One Comment

ABOVE: People gather for a candlelight vigil during a memorial service for the victims of the shooting at the Pulse gay nightclub in Orlando, Florida, June 13, 2016. (Photo: Jim Young/Reuters) The Importance of Obliterating Binary Thinking The tragedy in Orlando has affected so many people across the globe.  Both of my daughters are currently out of the country- (one in China and one in Europe) and not only are they deeply affected but as they tell me-people in other…

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Don’t Spoil Your Child; Spoil Your Spouse

Don’t Spoil Your Child; Spoil Your Spouse! (The best gift you can give your children)

By | Family, Family Relationships, Healthy Children, Parenting | No Comments

I hear it all the time!  What does my partner expect of me?  I am exhausted after taking my children to their various classes and sport activities, and then I have to make dinner and after dinner, I have to get them to bed.  By that time- I am exhausted and my spouse is mad at me for not having energy for him (or her). What do we do when we need to make sure that we have enough money…

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3 Daily Rituals that will Keep the Passion in Your Marriage

3 Daily Rituals that will Keep the Passion in Your Marriage

By | Committment, Communication, Creating More Passion in Marriage, Intimacy, Long Hot Marriage, Love, Marriage, Marriage Advice, Monogamy, Passion, Relationships, Romance | No Comments

Weddings, Bar and Bat Mitzvahs and funerals are rituals that make us slow down and have deeper, more profound life experiences. These rituals help us celebrate the good times and deal and heal from the bad times.  In marriage, we also need rituals to deal with the good and bad times and these rituals will keep as well as increase the passion and aliveness in your intimate relationship.  The rituals I am about to discuss are best done on a…

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