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[VIDEO] When is it okay to stay after infidelity

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So...your partner cheated and you're upset, humiliated, sad and experiencing a lot mixed feelings. Part of you might want to stay and part of you might want to just walk away from this horrible mess. That's totally understandable... In this video I've created for you below, I address the question of when it's OK to stay and work things out. Grab your FREE copy of the 10 Steps to Healing from Infidelity here:  http://toddcreager.com/infidelity-freebie/ And know I'm here to help if you or...

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In the Heat of The Moment

In the Heat of The Moment

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5 Tips to Quickly Recover From an Escalating Argument with Your Partner I confess.  I am in the heat of the moment right now with my spouse!  That’s right, right now. I am about to write what I am about to do or do what I am about to write; not sure what will come first.  Just about every couple gets into this kind of downward spiral funk where each wants to be heard and each is reacting. Here is…

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Are We Built For Monogamy

Are We Built For Monogamy?

By | Marriage Tips & Advice, Relationship Advice, Romance | No Comments

I get this question a lot.  As a matter of fact, my 25-year-old daughter just asked me tonight.  (I thanked her for the inspiration of the title of this article). She asked, since I specialize with infidelity and help people who are in danger of getting divorced.   I understand that question. There are some real concerning statistics. I would say that we have wiring in the brain that is there to help us as individuals and our species survive.  Some…

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3 ways to divorce proof your marriage

[VIDEO] 3 Ways to Divorce Proof Your Marriage

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Watch my video below where I share the 3 ways to divorce proof your marriage. With divorce rates skyrocketing, infidelity running rampant and communication at an all-time low, don't you think it is wise to start thinking about what it takes to divorce proof your marriage? In this video, I share my top 3 ways to divorce proof your marriage and they are so easy you can start changing your relationship today. You'll learn: Why and how to look at your partner...

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It Takes One To Make a Marriage

It Takes One To Make a Marriage

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It takes two to tango- a common expression and actually literally true.  You cannot tango by yourself. However, when it comes to marriage, each partner has a lot of power to make a positive impact on the marriage and on each other.   Personally, I want my wife to be willing to grow and improve and be the best wife she can possibly be. However, I do not ever want to put myself in a position where I am waiting for…

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From Getting Divorced to Madly In Love

From Getting Divorced to Madly In Love: How This Couple Did It

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“There is a 90% chance that I will file for divorce.”   That is what Anna (I changed the name for confidentiality reasons) said when her husband was a few minutes late to their couples appointment.  Then she continued, “It has to be his way or the highway. I don’t feel like I have a voice in this marriage.” She was looking for apartments to move out unbeknownst to him at the time.  This was our second session together. I…

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Why people divorce

The real reasons why people divorce

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I was at the gym the other day and my accountant friend asked me if the biggest reason why people divorce is due to money. Of course, that is the world my accountant friend lives in.  I do not know if that means that a substance abuse counselor might think divorce is due mostly to drugs and that a tantric sex educator would think divorce is due mainly to sex. I do hear that a lot though- people say that…

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How to recover from infidelity

How to recover from infidelity

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When I meet with couples (or individuals) who are needing help to recover from infidelity there are 2 questions I get asked all the time… How will I ever get over infidelity? And how long will it take me recover? Watch this video I created for you about how to recover from infidelity and thrive again as a couple. What does thriving after infidelity look like?  I cover this in-depth in the video. The number one piece of advice I…

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Infidelity- When Is It Time To Move On?

Infidelity- When Is It Time To Move On?

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5 Scenarios that May Tip the Scale Towards Saying Goodbye Last week, I wrote an article about when it makes sense for the betrayed partner to stay engaged in the relationship after infidelity.   Most of the couples that see me end up not only together but having a deeper and more connected relationship than before the affair. As I have said many times, this is not to say that cheating is a good thing; it is not.  However, with…

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Infidelity- When Does It Make Sense to Stay

Infidelity- When Does It Make Sense to Stay? The Necessary Seven Conditions

By | Communication Tips & Advice, Infidelity Tips & Advice, Love advice, Marriage Tips & Advice | One Comment

We are hearing about it all the time in the media- politicians, celebrities- infidelity is rampant and is as painful as it is rampant.   Maybe you have experienced it either as one who was betrayed or the one who betrayed. I have many couples each week that I work with on this painful problem and most of the time there is ambivalence on the part of the betrayed partner.  Should I stay or should I go?  This article is discussing…

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