Your Face Reminds Me of My Mother

Your Face Reminds Me of My Mother and other compliments

By | Communication, Intimacy, John Gottman, Long Hot Marriage, Love, Love advice, Marital Advice, marital research, Marriage, Passion, Relationships, Romance, Sexy Marriage | No Comments

Compliments like what is in the title of this article may not exactly be what your partner would want to hear, especially if it is the wife saying it to her husband. However, I wanted you to read this important information that is instrumental to a happy intimate relationship, so I wanted to get your attention. John and Julie Gottman, wonderful marriage researchers and therapists have studied couples for over 3 decades and have come up with a number of…

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32 Years and Still Sexy as Ever

By | Anniversary, Intimacy, Long Hot Marriage, Love, Marital Advice, Monogamy, Passion, Romance, Sexy Marriage, Successful Marriages | One Comment

This past August 12th was our 32nd wedding anniversary.  Cherie and I have been playing, loving, parenting, fighting and making up for all these years (Well- parenting together for 23 of those years).  Our relationship has had its challenges as all close relationships do.  We are very different in some significant ways.   Our parenting styles were different; I am a dreamer and have been a risk taker as an entrepreneur while my wife preferred more stability and structure.  And of…

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Communicating Your Kink With Your Partner

Communicating Your Kink With Your Partner

By | Commitment, Communication, Intimacy, Lust, Marriage Advice, Monogamy, Passion, Relationships, Romance, Sex, Successful Marriages | No Comments

Intimate partners often have unspoken rules of what can be expressed and what cannot be expressed. As author of the book, The Long Hot Marriage, I am passionate about helping long-term couples have alive and passionate relationships. One way to do that is to use the committed relationship to explore your “less conventional” sides of yourself, particularly your unconventional sexual desires. I am so thankful that this society is showing signs of opening up sexually and not being so quick…

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[VIDEO] How Great Communication Leads to Great Sex

By | Communication, Creating More Passion in Marriage, Great Sex, Lust, Sex | No Comments

It's a fact...great communication leads to great sex. This is true for BOTH men and women. Being able to express yourself in your relationship is the biggest aphrodisiac of all. Watch this short video where I talk about how communicating with intensity correctly will jump-start the passion in your intimate relationship Not only do I give you tips on how to communicate with intensity... I share more proven communication tips that will have your partner looking at you in a...

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Communicating with Your Child About Sex

Communicating with Your Child About Sex

By | adolescents, Communication, Family Relationships, good parenting, Healthy Children, healthy parenting, sex educatiom, STD’s, teenagers, the sex talk | No Comments

This month I will be talking about communication and sex, and for the first blog, I want to write about how to communicate with your child about sex. Here are 5 tips for healthy communication with your child about sex. 1) Do it! That’s right; the biggest problem with parents is that they avoid the conversation. Of course that means you need to do an inventory of yourself and your own attitudes about sex and how sex was communicated to…

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What to Do About Premature Ejaculation

What to Do About Premature Ejaculation: Possibly Nothing?

By | Communication, Premature Ejaculation, Sex, Sexual Desire, Sexual Dysfunction, Sexual Problem, Sexual Trauma | No Comments

Premature ejaculation was described in medical books almost 100 years ago.   In the past, men who had this problem were considered weak or selfish.  This could not be further from the truth according to all the latest research.  Whereas the main past theories of what causes this issue were psychological, more recently, the research clearly points to more biological reasons.  For example, variances in central neurotransmission and serotonin receptor functioning are contributors to how long a person can delay ejaculation…

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When One Spouse Feels Like the Parent

When One Spouse Feels Like the Parent and the Other Feels Like the Child

By | Low sexual desire, Relationships, Sex, Sexual Desire, Sexual Dysfunction, Sexual Problem | No Comments

How It Affects Sexual Desire In just about every couple I help, there is a father/daughter or mother/child pattern that has manifested.  In other words, much of the time, one of the spouses feels more like a parent; a person who has to manage, restrict or compensate for the other person.  I hear these people say statements such as- “I feel like I have another child” “I think of everyone and he (or she) only thinks of him (or herself.”…

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Female Orgasmic Disorder

Female Orgasmic Disorder

By | Communication, Female Orgasmic Disorder, Love, Low sexual desire, Lust, Orgasm, Passion, Sex, Sexual Trauma | 2 Comments

Yes, this is what it is called in the DSM 5, the most recent reference guide that therapists use to diagnose different types of mental and emotional issues.  However, is it a disorder?  The problem with this kind of language is that it leads to more of a woman feeling inadequate if she has this problem or “disorder.”  The truth is that there are many possible factors whether they are physical, emotional or relational that can contribute to blocks to…

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Dealing with Erection Difficulties in Men

Dealing with Erection Difficulties in Men

By | Arousal Disorder, Erection Problems, Sexual Desire | No Comments

Not unlike the problem of low sexual desire that I discussed in my previous blog, erection problems can be caused by physical, emotional and relationship reasons as well as a combination of these factors. I could tell you the main reasons men have erection issues who come to see me for help. Medical issues such as diabetes or certain medication side effects Low testosterone Performance anxiety This list is in increasing order of frequency of what I see in my…

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4 Common Causes of Low Sexual Desire

By | Great Sex, Low sexual desire, Marriage Problems, Sex, Uncategorized | No Comments

In this short video I talk about low desire and the 4 most common causes I see in my practice. Yes, there is hope and help  - sometimes it is an easy straightforward fix and sometimes it requires a combination of tactics to resolve. Watch the video and find out what the 4 most common causes are.   I've even got a few tips to help you out. Want More Passion? Get Todd's Audio:  Secrets to a Sexy Marriage Free...

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