Todd Creager

Should We Tell the Kids About the Affair?

September 23, 2014 by 2 comments

Now THAT is a difficult question.

The immediate answer seems to be “Absolutely not!”

But taking a closer look, the better answer is- “That depends.”  There are a variety of situations that may make it seem unnecessary to tell them.  Take for example the situation where there is a one-night …

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Published in Infidelity, Marriage

Are You Keeping ANY Secrets from Your Partner?

September 18, 2014 by Leave a comment

Secrets are problematic in relationships for these reasons:

1)     You unconsciously begin distancing yourself from your partner when you keep something form him or her.

2)     You have a higher chance of acting out in ways such as cheating, keeping more secrets (slippery slope phenomena) and even being cruel to …

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Financial Infidelity is an Epidemic!

September 11, 2014 by Leave a comment

According to a 2014 Survey from the National Endowment for Financial Education, 1 out of 3 couples have a partner who has lied about their financial situation to their partner.

And 76% of those partners said that financial deception has adversely affected their relationships.  As I wrote in last week’s …

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How to Prevent Affairs From Continuing

September 9, 2014 by Leave a comment

You were a little suspicious before, since he was coming home later than usual and being a little more distant.

But now, you saw the text and you know it’s true.

He is having an affair.  (Or she).  So now what do you do?  You love your husband, you have …

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Keeping Secrets is an Interpersonal Crime

September 4, 2014 by Leave a comment

“Keeping secrets such as an affair is an interpersonal crime.

It IS stealing; the secret holder is stealing the right of his or her partner to make decisions based on the absolute truth.  

The only way we CAN make good decisions for ourselves …

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Love and Lust: You Can Have It All

August 26, 2014 by Leave a comment

Love is one of those words that could mean many things so I will give you my best definition of love.  Love is knowing and demonstrating the power of your ability to care for someone, to uplift that person, to make that person’s life better in some small or large …

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Published in Love, Marriage

Empty Nest Yes; Empty Nest Syndrome No!

August 21, 2014 by Leave a comment

Empty Nest Yes; Empty Nest Syndrome No!

As many of you know, August 12th was my 30th wedding anniversary.  And to keep up my week of self-disclosure, we are weeks away from having an empty nest; our younger daughter will be off to college.  With two in college …

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30 Years Later: Why I Am Still So In Love With My Wife

August 12, 2014 by 2 comments

Today is August 12, 2014 and it is my wedding anniversary.  I have been married to Cherie for 30 years. I want to tell you why I am still so in love with her.  I want to be authentic and real, because as you probably could guess, being a marriage …

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Published in Marriage, Relationships

Having a sense of humor is important to a relationship

July 29, 2014 by Leave a comment

I asked women in a survey what the most important traits of men that would help them fall in love or stay in love with them?

The number one answer was “sense of humor.”

As a man, I know that I also appreciate my wife’s sense of humor and it …

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