Hot Monogamy- 3 Surefire Ways to Spark Your Relationship

Hot Monogamy – 3 Surefire Ways to Spark Your Relationship

By | Commitment, Creating More Passion in Marriage, Family, Family Relationships, Great Sex, Long Hot Marriage, Marital Advice, Marriage Advice, Monogamy, Passion, Relationships, Romance, Sexy | No Comments

When I wrote my book, “The Long Hot Marriage,” my brother exclaimed- “Oh, you wrote a fairy tale!”  It was a funny line but let me tell you something- The Long Hot Marriage is no fairy tale!  Hot monogamy is a reality and here are 3 ways to make sure you experience this wonderful gift of a long, passionate relationship: 1)   Dare to leave your comfort zone often.  Your ancestors basically did not do this with their partners.  Take a…

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3 Ways Practicing Kindness Leads to Better Sex

3 Ways Practicing Kindness Leads to Better Sex

By | Commitment, Great Sex, Intimacy, Long Hot Marriage, Love, Marital Advice, Marriage Advice, Monogamy, Passion, Relationships, Romance | No Comments

When you read the word “kind”, what sensations or feelings come up for you?  For me, there is a softening of my muscles, and ease in my body.  There is a slowing down of some sort.  For some people in our lives, it may be easy to practice kindness but unfortunately, it is often most difficult with our long-term partner.  It is easy to have automatic resentment or focus on where our partner is NOT meeting our needs.  Or we…

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The Orlando Shooting and Our Emotional Evolution

The Orlando Shooting and Our Emotional “Evolution”

By | Equality, Gender, Gender Issues, LGBT, Love, Orlando tragedy | One Comment

ABOVE: People gather for a candlelight vigil during a memorial service for the victims of the shooting at the Pulse gay nightclub in Orlando, Florida, June 13, 2016. (Photo: Jim Young/Reuters) The Importance of Obliterating Binary Thinking The tragedy in Orlando has affected so many people across the globe.  Both of my daughters are currently out of the country- (one in China and one in Europe) and not only are they deeply affected but as they tell me-people in other…

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Don’t Spoil Your Child; Spoil Your Spouse

Don’t Spoil Your Child; Spoil Your Spouse! (The best gift you can give your children)

By | Family, Family Relationships, Healthy Children, Parenting | No Comments

I hear it all the time!  What does my partner expect of me?  I am exhausted after taking my children to their various classes and sport activities, and then I have to make dinner and after dinner, I have to get them to bed.  By that time- I am exhausted and my spouse is mad at me for not having energy for him (or her). What do we do when we need to make sure that we have enough money…

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3 Daily Rituals that will Keep the Passion in Your Marriage

3 Daily Rituals that will Keep the Passion in Your Marriage

By | Committment, Communication, Creating More Passion in Marriage, Intimacy, Long Hot Marriage, Love, Marriage, Marriage Advice, Monogamy, Passion, Relationships, Romance | No Comments

Weddings, Bar and Bat Mitzvahs and funerals are rituals that make us slow down and have deeper, more profound life experiences. These rituals help us celebrate the good times and deal and heal from the bad times.  In marriage, we also need rituals to deal with the good and bad times and these rituals will keep as well as increase the passion and aliveness in your intimate relationship.  The rituals I am about to discuss are best done on a…

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EMDR- A trauma approach that can help couple

EMDR- A trauma approach that can help couple

By | Abuse, Counseling, EMDR, Emotional Trauma, Relationships, Toxic Relationships | No Comments

I have discussed about EMDR in a few past blogs. As I have said EMDR is a well researched and very effective approach to help people move through past pain so they can live more in the present. In this article I want to briefly talk about how I use it with couples that come to see me. Sometimes one or both partners are blocked emotionally or sexually because of some earlier past trauma or multiple traumas. Often past events…

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Body Awareness

The Importance of Body Awareness

By | Awareness, Communication, Mind/Body Health | No Comments

Are you paying attention to your body? As you read these words, pay attention to how your abdominal area feels.   Is it relaxed or tight?   Now notice how your jaw area feels. Is it clenched or relaxed?  If you are sitting, notice the sensation on your buttocks against whatever you are sitting on.   You may realize that those sensations were there before I asked you to notice them.   However, you probably did not experience these sensations before…

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People CAN Heal from Trauma_Introducing EMDR

People CAN Heal from Trauma: Introducing EMDR

By | Abuse, Abusive Relationship, Domestic Violence, EMDR, Trauma | 2 Comments

EMDR stands for eye movement desensitization and reprocessing.  It is an approach that has helped many, many people get beyond past distressing memories so they are free to live a full life.  It is based on the idea that the mind can recover from emotional pain just as the body can heal from wounds.  If you cut your hand, it heals- there is a scab and after a while- it looks as good as new.  If there is a painful…

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How to overcome your dysfunctional family

By | Dysfunctional Family, Family Relationships | No Comments

Think you might have a dysfunctional family or wondering how to overcome yours? In this video Todd shares how to recognize if your family is dysfunctional.  And he shares some insightful tips that will help you change your self sabotaging behaviors. So grab a piece of paper, watch this short video, jot down a few notes then practice what Todd tells you to do and free yourself from your dysfunctional family. Not 100% sure you have a dysfunctional family? I…

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