EMDR- A trauma approach that can help couple

EMDR- A trauma approach that can help couple

By | Abuse, Counseling, EMDR, Emotional Trauma, Relationships, Toxic Relationships | No Comments

I have discussed about EMDR in a few past blogs. As I have said EMDR is a well researched and very effective approach to help people move through past pain so they can live more in the present. In this article I want to briefly talk about how I use it with couples that come to see me. Sometimes one or both partners are blocked emotionally or sexually because of some earlier past trauma or multiple traumas. Often past events…

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Body Awareness

The Importance of Body Awareness

By | Awareness, Communication, Mind/Body Health | No Comments

Are you paying attention to your body? As you read these words, pay attention to how your abdominal area feels.   Is it relaxed or tight?   Now notice how your jaw area feels. Is it clenched or relaxed?  If you are sitting, notice the sensation on your buttocks against whatever you are sitting on.   You may realize that those sensations were there before I asked you to notice them.   However, you probably did not experience these sensations before…

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People CAN Heal from Trauma_Introducing EMDR

People CAN Heal from Trauma: Introducing EMDR

By | Abuse, Abusive Relationship, Domestic Violence, EMDR, Trauma | One Comment

EMDR stands for eye movement desensitization and reprocessing.  It is an approach that has helped many, many people get beyond past distressing memories so they are free to live a full life.  It is based on the idea that the mind can recover from emotional pain just as the body can heal from wounds.  If you cut your hand, it heals- there is a scab and after a while- it looks as good as new.  If there is a painful…

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How to overcome your dysfunctional family

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Think you might have a dysfunctional family or wondering how to overcome yours? In this video Todd shares how to recognize if your family is dysfunctional.  And he shares some insightful tips that will help you change your self sabotaging behaviors. So grab a piece of paper, watch this short video, jot down a few notes then practice what Todd tells you to do and free yourself from your dysfunctional family. Not 100% sure you have a dysfunctional family? I…

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Banish Your Inner Critic From The Bedroom

Banish Your Inner Critic From The Bedroom

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It is important to become aware of your own internal critic. If your partner is being critical of you it does not necessarily mean that you also need to be critical of you. You need to be more aware of, and have more confidence in yourself and your abilities. And to be ok with you, even when others are not. That does not mean that you do not learn from what others say or that you do not make changes….

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When the Toxic Person in Your Life is That Negative Voice Inside Your Head

When the Toxic Person in Your Life is That Negative Voice Inside Your Head

By | Ciritical Thinking, Self-Talk, Toxic Relationships | No Comments

I have been writing about toxic relationships and this article is about another type of toxicity, the toxicity you give to yourself. We all have different voices going on inside of our heads and I am not talking about auditory hallucinations. It has to do with the self-talk we engage in throughout the days of our life. Most if not all of us have a critical voice inside of us that is measuring and comparing us with others and judging…

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He Overcame a Toxic Relationship at Work

He Overcame a Toxic Relationship at Work

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What We All Can Learn from John In my Todd’s Thursday Thought last week, I wrote about toxic relationships at work.  I discussed 3 tips to help you deal with toxic relationships in your work life including going opposite your reflex.  When we go with our reflex, it is usually going to bring us the same bad results we have already had.  It also does not do anything for our wellbeing or growth.   Toxic relationships are unpleasant but they can…

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Toxic Relationships at Work

Toxic Relationships at Work

By | Abuse, Relationships, Toxic Relationships, Toxic Relationships at Work, Work Stress | No Comments

In addition to my focus on couples, I have done some business consulting and have helped business be more profitable by developing healthier relationships at work.  Researchers have consistently shown that there is a connection between good morale, healthy work relationships and productivity.  However, sometimes, just as in personal relationships, you have to deal with a toxic relationship at work.  I have helped many clients in my private practice deal with people at work who are draining their energy, creating…

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5 Tips for Spotting Toxic Relationships by Looking at Ourselves

5 Tips for Spotting Toxic Relationships by Looking at Ourselves

By | Abuse, Abusive Relationship, Domestic Violence, Healing, Healing from Abuse, Relationships | No Comments

Is my relationship toxic? I have been asked this question many times by clients. So, how do you know if your relationship is toxic? Sometimes it is obvious. If your partner is yelling or screaming at you, physically abusing you, calling you names or cursing at you regularly, it is pretty easy to figure out. However, often, it is way subtler than that. When it is subtle, not only is it harder to get out of the toxic relationship but…

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