Breaking Free from the 5 Dysfunctional Roles

Breaking Free from the 5 Dysfunctional Roles

By | Dysfunctional Family, Family Relationships, family Roles, Relationships, Toxic Relationships | 3 Comments

Part 2 of the Dysfunctional Roles article Two weeks ago, I wrote an article describing 5 roles that people inherit when they come from dysfunctional families. Of course, you may personally come up with more roles; I just listed the ones I see that are most common. In this article, I copied and pasted the description of each role from the previous article and then underneath I describe ways you can break the chains of those roles to become more…

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Dysfunctional Families

Dysfunctional Families: How To Deal with Scapegoating and Projection

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Scapegoating and projection are very common scenarios in dysfunctional families. Just what is scapegoating and projection? It happens when members of your family don't own their own stuff and project it on other family...maybe you!  You know the feeling...you get together for a big family gathering and you don't end up enjoying yourself because of someone in your family? In this video Todd covers the signs of scapegoating, a story of how scapegoating and projection affected him personally. Watch the...

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Growing Up In a Dysfunctional Family

Growing Up In a Dysfunctional Family: 5 Possible Roles You May have Inherited

By | Dysfunctional Family, Family Problems, Family Relationships, Toxic Relationships | 2 Comments

In a dysfunctional family, one or more of the parents or siblings had some issues that they did not deal with in healthy ways.  Instead, the rest of the family had to adapt to survive and make sense of the family.  If you came from a dysfunctional family, then neither you nor any of your family members could escape this adaptation. This adaptation can be thought of as a role.  As you know from a job role, it is limited….

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Honoring Your Fantasies and Your Committed Relationship

Honoring Your Fantasies and Your Committed Relationship

By | Creating More Passion in Marriage, Healthy Marriage, Long Hot Marriage, Love advice, Marriage Advice, Passion, Romance, Sensuality, Sex, Sexual Desire | No Comments

I am a marriage and sex therapist.  We all have fantasies…that’s a normal part of being human.  Today’s article is all about honoring your fantasies and your committed relationship…yes, that’s possible so please read on. In my practice and in society in general I see far to many people are getting divorced and too many people are being unfaithful.   My main purposes in life besides helping couples heal is to help prevent these problems. The reasons for these problems are multiple and…

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How to Make Your Spouse Young and Sexy Again

How to Make Your Spouse Young and Sexy Again

By | Intimacy, Romance, Sex, Sexy Marriage | No Comments

Research has shown the power of relationships on one’s health and mental health. Relationships that are nurturing and compassionate lead to the flowing of healthy hormones and bodily chemicals.  On the other hand, I know that I have said far more than once- “Wow, look at that person, he (or she) has had a hard life.”  What makes me say that?  It is usually when I see that someone seems older than his or her years; more wrinkles and just…

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Creating a Passionate Marriage

Creating a Passionate Marriage

By | Communication, Intimacy, Long Hot Marriage, Sexual Dysfunction | No Comments

I love writing about this stuff! I just celebrated with my wife our 33rd wedding anniversary this past Saturday and I enjoy the creative process of keeping things alive and fresh in my own marriage.   Yes, passionate marriages are created; created by paying attention to each other, courageously communicating and doing new things and also keeping yourself interesting.   The only way to keep yourself interesting is to lean beyond your edge.   Your edge (as David Deida says…

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The Five Biggest Blocks to Intimacy

The Five Biggest Blocks to Intimacy

By | Communication, Intimacy, Passion, Sex, Sexual Dysfunction, Sexy Marriage | No Comments

Intimacy is about feeling close to your partner.  It is about feeling safe enough to be vulnerable.  It is about having an interpersonal adventure by trying new things together in and out of the bedroom.   In this article, I write about the five main obstacles that prevent many couples from enjoying the deep pleasure of depth and feeling genuinely bonded.   If you have one or more of these obstacles happening in your relationship, just remember that I assist…

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The Courage & Safety of Intimacy

By | Healthy Marriage, Intimacy, Love advice, Marital Advice, Relationships, Romance, Sensuality, Sex, Successful Marriages | No Comments

Are you letting fear ruin the possibility of having intimate love? In this video, marriage and sex therapist Todd Creager discusses the courage and safety of intimacy, and learning to give and receive love. He'll show you the 2 critical steps that you need to take in order to create the right environment in your relationship where you can relax and be truly intimate with your partner. "Intimacy is the practice of courage." -Todd Creager I encourage you to be...

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A Successful Couple Who Healed from Sex Addiction

By | Addiction, Fear of Intimacy, Infidelity, Pornography, Sexual Addiction, Sexual Trauma, Trauma | No Comments

Tom and Mary (not their real names) came to me because Mary found Tom’s sent emails to several online “solicitors.” He had not acted on them but he had admitted to checking out Internet prostitution sites over the last three years.  Mary caught him doing porn many times and was angry about how often he seemed to do it and the lack of initiating sex with her.  In our first session, he embarrassingly said that he probably looked at porn…

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Treatment of Sexual Addiction

Treatment of Sexual Addiction

By | Addiction, Infidelity, Pornography, Sexual Addiction, Sexual Trauma, Trauma, Treatment of Sexual Addiction | No Comments

I am going to be using the blog from 2 weeks ago- 5 Possible Causes of Sex Addiction to briefly discuss treatment approaches for this problem depending on the corresponding possible cause. As with many other “diagnoses,” there can be multiple factors that could lead to someone being sexually addicted. Here are five possible causes that I have observed in my clinical work: 1)   There was early sexual, emotional or physical trauma in the addicted person’s early life. Victims of…

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