Todd’s Thursday tip for relationship bliss

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Make this slow touch weekend… Touch your partner as if she (or he) is the most precious and cherished and treasured person in the world. You want your touch to leave your partner feeling loved, cherished, admired, appreciated, special, significant and beautiful (or handsome). Here’s to getting the love you want!

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Todd’s Thursday tip for relationship bliss

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Don’t wait to be “in the mood” to be romantic. There are certain things that I need to do that if I waited to be “in the mood” I might do it every February 29th!  Or never!  Be romantic this weekend. All it takes to be romantic is to first decide that you are that person who can lift the spirit of your partner.  Then second- visualize the smile on your partner’s face when she is the recipient of your…

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Todd’s Thursday tip for relationship bliss

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This weekend, experiment with being your opposite.  If you are sexually conservative, do an erotic dance for your partner.  Let him be surprised; let him squirm; let him be delighted.  Whatever his response, go for it. Life is about experimenting and relationships are most definitely about experimenting. If you tend to be egocentric, spend the entire weekend focusing on the well-being of your partner and other loved ones. If you are a leader, follow your partner’s lead; if you are…

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Todd’s Thursday Tip for Relationship Bliss

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Our society runs in fast motion. There is much to do and technology easily eats up whatever time we have when we are done with our to-do list. The straight out truth is this speed is taking a toll on our lives and relationships. There is much going on “out there” but there also is much going on “in here.” I am convinced that periodic slowing down to listen to ourselves actually makes us more effective and we get more…

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Why Some Men (And Women) Can’t Commit

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You have been waiting for him to pop the question and no matter how long you wait, there is always a reason that he will propose later.  Or maybe he says, “Let me do it on my time; don’t push me.”  The only problem is you have been dating or living with each other for years and you wonder if his time will always be ‘later.’  So then, you express your frustration and he uses that as an excuse why…

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Creating a Relationship Vision for 2012

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     Business and life coaches always talk about creating a vision. They may have you see yourself making the money you want to make, buying the house you want to buy or being the weight you want to be.  The reason that coaches insist on people making a vision is because it works- it works because people act in ways that reflect how they are thinking, imagining and believing.  If you visualize success, it is far more likely that you…

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The Secrets of a Long, Hot Marriage

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I am doing a free teleseminar today(Monday, Oct. 3rd at 4:15 PM Pacific time) titled- The Secrets of a Long, Hot Marriage which are some of my important points I make in my book, “The Long, Hot Marriage.  This 1 hour teleseminar is sure to change how you look at yourself and your partner (and relationship) forever.  Things begin to make sense and you will have ideas and options to improve your life that you never thought possible.  The details…

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The Plasticity of the Brain

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I have been teaching grad students at the USC School of Social Work and truth be told- I am learning as much as the students to whom I am lecturing.  We cover a lot of area is in this class and even though I have a lot of preparation to do, I am having a great time with it.  One of the subject areas I have been learning about and teaching is the neuroscience of psychotherapy.  It is a fascinating…

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The Demise of Guys?

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  Above is a video I recently came across on the many struggles boys and men face in society and how they are reacting to it. Psychologist Philip Zimbardo asks, “Why are boys struggling?” He shares some stats (lower graduation rates, greater worries about intimacy and relationships) and suggests a few reasons — and he asks for your help! As a sex therapist, I have seen first hand some of the issues Zimbardo discusses in this video concerning arousal addiction…

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