There are three things that stand out when I think of what married people and those in long term relationships need to know about sex.
- Don’t wait to be”in the mood.” As a radio host that I heard once said, “If my wife waited to be in the mood to have sex with me, I would have it every February 29th!” Yes, in the beginning of relationships and even in the middle of relationships there are times when feelings drive us to the behavior. Sometimes though, we need to “just do it,”whatever “it” is and let the feeling follow. The key is to keep the relationship sexual on a consistent basis.
- Be honest about your wants, preferences and fantasies. Don’t play it too safe. If that is a problem for one or both of you, come see me in person or on Skype. Risk and variety are important in a long term relationship.
- Sex is NOT about performance; it is about connection. The outcome is NOT as important as the process. Be loving, be close and have an adventure. The size of the man’s penis or either person’s orgasm is just NOT as important as being fully present as each person enjoys the physical connection.
So married people and those others in long term relationships- Have fun having sex!!! These three tips will help!